Arrrrghhh dumped again!! :(

[rainbowfeet]

Why do men do this... ? Such cowards!
New relationship of type ( few weeks) saw him Friday, all was good, discussed what we call 'us' & he said he would describe us as seeing each other & he wouldn't be dating anyone else. He said he was happy how things were going but wanted to take things slow.. All agreeable with me.
Text me sat day to ask if I was having a nice day etc.. We were supposed to be going out to a party last night, I text him to say if meet him there he didn't show, I rang him once didn't answer!
Now I feel like a fool, you know when you just start to let your guard down & tell a few people you've met someone... Now I've got to say AGAIN that it hasn't worked out!!! So fed up being treated like shit!!

He didnt reply to one text and one phone call and you're dumped? Maybe there's more to it?!

Steady on... What makes you think that?!

Wait..... What?!

Give him a chance first!

I know it sounds bunny boilerish but the circumstances (hard to explain without being outed) do point to him changing his mind! He has form too.. One of these always on the look out for someone 'better'!!
Glad I found out now not longer down the line! Shall hold my head high & smile sweetly next time I bump into him!

Does sound a bit weird that you would have a text convo earlier in the day and then he would just disappear by the evening, but my first reponse would be concern that everything was ok with him, that there wasn't a concerning reason why he hadn't shown at the party or answered his phone, rather than taking it personally and assuming that he'd changed his mind about his relationship with you?

Nah, he's a 'vanisher'. Sadly commonplace since online dating made it easy to switch to another date - there's been a veritable explosion in bad manners/cowardliness of this type. They had a date last night, he didn't turn up and didn't contact her. All you need to decide now is whether you'll overlook it if he contacts you reasonably soon (today?) and apologises. If he pops up again in a week or more after he's dated someone else and decided to pick up again with you you will tell him to do one, on the grounds of appal in bad manners, won't you?! Sorry this has happened - sooo frustrating.

Walkacrossthesand ... You've hit the nail on the head, sadly!

I have terrible low self esteem & his is far too high, I have felt from the start that I was punching above my weight & had the feeling he agreed...

Circumstances do make things awkward as we will be bumping into one another but I am a good actress & will only mumble 'wanker' under my breath!!

Why are people saying give him the benefit of the doubt. You were stood up! Tell him where to get off.

Annoying. But you're worth more. He blew his chance.
If you see him, act normal say hi and move on.

Thank you Maple ... I will

Sorry.

Just watch him for turning the charm back on when he want's to string you along again.

A short but polite - "no thanks" will do, then put him on your block list.

Yes Farrow that will be tough because the chemistry is very strong but we live in a small rural community & I can't have people thinking I'm a numpty so I will politely tell him where to go!

You are worth so much more.. life is far to short and precious to waste on people that don't treat you like you deserve.