He cheated on her with me, now i'm being cut out of his life?

[BeigeDarling]

(i'm really sorry if i shouldn't be posting this here; i'm a 16 year old girl and not a parent but i'm loosing sleep over this and i needed advice from somebody. anybody)

Recently i realised i really really 'fancied' one of my closest guy friends. He found out and we were both being very flirty ect.

He told me he would take me out for dinner, was very sweet and lead me on a lot by what i guess you would call 'sexting'.

We even decided that (and i'm so embarrassed to be saying this) we would have sex on the Sunday of the week this happened. He's had sex plenty of things, and well, i really wanted it.

We went out on the Sunday but neither of us had a free house so we sat on a field- nothing happened other than a lot of kissing, even though he wanted to do more, i decided against it as i have more dignity than that. We were not in a relationship so it was fairly confusing at to what was happening and i kept asking him 'What's happening between us?' with which i got a reply of 'I don't know' and nothing more.

The next day i found that he was suddenly in a relationship again with his ex-girlfriend. I confronted him about it, and he told me it happened after i left, and that he was really sorry, would never have kissed me if he knew he was getting back with her, ect.

THEN i found out, that actually that was all bullshit, and he had already been with her for a week, and stayed round hers and had sex on the Saturday; the day before we were going to.

He said that his reasons for this is because 'he doesn't think before he acts, and he's a complete dick' - right, because that makes it okay?

So now because he cheated on her with me, that's somehow my fault even though i didn't know he was with her; and now his girlfriend doesn't want him to speak to me anymore to which he's happy to do because 'he wants to prove he will do anything for her'

He's one of my best-friends and i really thought something was happening with us, and now he's cutting me out of his life for her, because of a stupid mistake that he made (yet again- this is the third girlfriend he has cheated on)

I really don't know what to do, i see him every day at sixth form, and all of my close friends are close friends with him too- i'm really struggling with knowing what to do now

I'm so sorry it's long, and i know i'm only a child and shouldn't be on here, but i'm loosing it slightly by myself!

Sorry for my typos - have a different keyboard today.

Keep yourself "busty"
Typo of the day!

i'm really struggling with knowing what to do now

I would just ignore him. You've seen his true colours. He's not your friend, he's an arse with women, don't waste any further time on him. You can just tell your mates that he's such a dick you can't be arsed with him at all...

(There's nothing more deflating to a teenage boys ego than a girl thinking he's a total knob).

The best thing you can do op is appear to not be affected by him. Be polite, if you bump into him remain indifferent. Don't be on your own with him.

Expect him to 'pop up' at times your feeling lonely, sad and vulnerable! Men like him can sniff out a lonely women from 500 paces .

Find a fun, caring respectful man who wants to be with you because he like talking to you and doesn't just see you as a sexual opportunity.

You sound like a great girl Beige. I was still embroiled in this kind of bullshit when I was 19/20 at least. More fool me! I'm a wise old 41 now, but can remember all the pain of it too well.

I can guarantee that he will cheat on his gf again, very shortly probably and the chances are he'll come brushing up to you again. Don't fall for it.

What you're feeling now is really normal and common. It doesn't hurt any less, but you will stop thinking about this eventually.

You have reminded me of a memory I had buried from when I was 15. I was camping with friends when an older man of 20 that I fancied crept into my tent. We enjoyed some "heavy petting" but no actual sex. Then he crept out again. I was thrilled by the attention.
The next week I heard nothing. Then I heard he had got engaged to his girlfriend I knew nothing about, a lady of 25. He ignored me from then on.
I was mortified. But actually I mainly felt sorry for her that when she was enjoying the most romantic of times getting engaged he was fondling a teenager behind her back. What a loser!
I wonder how that panned out? I haven't thought of him for years. And nowadays that would be considered abusive now I think about it wouldn't it?
You sound lovely and like me rather embarrassed to be fooled by a good looking man into behaviour you now regret. Don't feel responsible he is the one who should be ashamed. Get on with your life and raise your standards. Only the best are good enough to be with you!