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MIL driving me crazy!

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GalaxyGal · 05/07/2006 10:37

I am new to mumsnet and I'm really sorry that my first post is a rant but needed to get an outside opinion about my MIL's behaviour.

My MIL has always driven me crazy but even more so since I had my dd. She has always been the type of person that feels she has to get involved in everything around her. She has opinions about everything dh and I do, and especially about anything concerning my dd. I have told her numerous times that if I want advice, I will ask for it but she doesn't ever listen! Her opinions are always negative e.g. you don't want to go there, you don't want to buy that etc...

Recently she has started doing things that I think she is doing to purposely wind me up as she knows that I am losing my patience! She looks after my dd occasionally and most recently, she had my dd in the garden completely naked when it was really hot. I never have my dd playing naked in the garden and she would know that. When I came back home, I actually heard her say 'Mummy is going to be upset' as I came round the corner.

I am on the verge of completely losing it but wanted to know whether I should just accept her behaviour, and just be glad that my dd has a grandmother that absolutely adores her.

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k9kuts · 05/07/2006 11:37

hi galaxygirl,just to let you know you are not alone there must be millions of people who can relate to this thread.i had problems to when dd was born with mil being overbearing and annoying to say the least, but for dd sake i just had to get over it and accept that is her personality.to be honest we get on great now. dont get me wrong i dont let her walk all over me and if she says something out of place i put her straight (in the nicest possible way).id tell her your feelings and what you overheard and see if it helps.good luck!k9kuts

peasinapod · 05/07/2006 21:21

www.motherinlawstories.com I promise you if you go on this site you will be amazed and you wont feel so bad . WARNING this site is addictive

peasinapod · 05/07/2006 21:22

ps if you dont post for a while we know where you are . LOL

1Baby1Bump · 05/07/2006 21:25

mine undermines me at any oppertunity. i know exactly how you feel. i try to see her as little as poss but when i have to i am firm with her now. she doesnt try it on as much now.
she was lovely till i had my son. now shes a bitch.

itsme123 · 05/07/2006 22:29

Hi GG, welcome to mumsnet!
most of my posts on mn are about my witch in law - i find everyone helps me realise if i have over-reacted or not.
Personally i think you need to put your foot down and tell her when things are unacceptable. Yes it will be hard work and she might not agree but at the end of the day she has had her children and brought them up how she thought best and now she has to learn to take a step back and let you bring up your children as you see best.
Having said that - there may be small things you can let go. For eg, let her help you do things or ask her if she could help and see what reaction you get.
hth

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