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No boyfriend for 3 years.....now 2 guys are interested in me! What do I do?

18 replies

JobWobby · 25/10/2013 10:02

My last relationship was over 3 years ago and since then I have been on my own.
Now I have 2 different guys who want to date me.

I have been out on 2 dates with one of them and things are going pretty well. I'm enjoying his company.
Now an old friend has text me asking to take me out on a date. I'm flattered and intrigued to go out with guy number two but at the same time I feel a bit cruel to guy number 1.

We are not bf and gf so its not cheating but it still feels wrong in my head. I don't know what to do.

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Wishfulmakeupping · 25/10/2013 10:04

He's a friend so I think you should go as friends if it feels like anything could happen then end things with no 1 if not no harm done you've had a night out with an old friend

CogitoErgoSometimes · 25/10/2013 10:07

Life's too short to be faithful to people you're just dating. :) As long as you don't try to mislead anyone it's not cruel in the slightest. Go for it.

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JobWobby · 25/10/2013 10:09

But he doesn't want to go as a friend.....he said a date.

Guy number 1 is nice and well spoken. He is a good guy and not the usual type I go for but lovely all the same. Guy number 2 is a bit of a tit and I know he is obsessed with sex. And now I'm wondering if the only reason he has asked me out is to get me into bed....he knows I don't sleep around.
I feel like a bitch.

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BigWoooooo · 25/10/2013 10:09

Ha! This happened to me! I went on a few dates with both and now I am married to one of them.

FWIW I married the one that, on paper, was least suited to me - go with your gut!

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JobWobby · 25/10/2013 10:10

lol.... I have been out of the game for so long. I feel like a 15 year old! sorry if I sound stupid Grin

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AnyFuckersfrogslegs35 · 25/10/2013 10:19

Guy number 2 is a bit of a tit and I know he is obsessed with sex
This part would make me worry a little, unless, of course, you are up for a quick NSA shag.

You're under no obligation to Guy 1 as you said you're not BF/GF so maybe meet with guy 2, tell him it's 'as friends' for a few drinks and see how you feel after that - If he is a bit of a tit then you might not see him in the same light anyway.

whatever you do, have fun and enjoy ;)

flowery · 25/10/2013 10:21

"Guy number 2 is a bit of a tit"

Confused Why would you want to go out with him then?

CogitoErgoSometimes · 25/10/2013 10:21

You're not a bitch, you're just keeping your options open. However, if you don't like Guy #2, just turn him down.

Wishfulmakeupping · 25/10/2013 10:29

If he's a tit then don't waste any time on him! Stick with 1

sunbathe · 25/10/2013 10:35

The 'not my usual type' boyfriend ended up being my husband in my case.

If you always do what you've always done...

kinkyfuckery · 25/10/2013 10:36

Why would want to go out with #2?

Stick with #1. Hope it continues to go well.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 25/10/2013 10:37

JobWobby

What sort of type do you usually go for?.

Honestly I'd give number 2 guy a wide berth particularly as you already know he is a bit of a tit. Such people do not change and are opportunists; he sees an opportunity. Old friend indeed, he should be consigned to the past. Bad boys are just that - bad. Where's your self worth at to consider even seeing such a person in the first place?.

If this guy number 1 is nice then stick with this person.

Dahlen · 25/10/2013 10:38

Unless you want some NSA sex which won't ruin your friendship with guy #2, I'd leave him well alone. Striking out from your usual 'type' is one thing and can be a good move (especially if your usual type hasn't worked out well in the past), but going for someone who is "a bit of a tit" and obsessed with sex" sounds too much to me like inviting disaster. If you just want sex, fine, but if you want more I'd say you're likely to hurt.

cabernetshiraz · 25/10/2013 10:40

Does number two know you're dating number one? Just wondering, as sometimes a bit of competition piques their interest & he might not be genuine.

Go with your gut, but I married one of the nice guys... they're underrated ;)

FracturedViewOfLife · 25/10/2013 10:44

The not my type guy won here too Smile

If it were me I would stick with number 1.

niceupthedance · 25/10/2013 10:45

Do you think either of these guys are turning down dates with other women? No harm in dating more than one person at once, keep your options open.

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JobWobby · 25/10/2013 16:03

spoke to my best friend and she reminded me of what an idiot guy two has been in the past and also how every guy I have been out with before has been a similar type that always turn out to be bad news. So I'm going to stick with number one. He is just lovely.... a genuinely lovely guy and I would be a fool not to give him a proper chance. I don't want to complicate things by seeing someone else at the same time.

I think I was just a bit overwhelmed that there were 2 guys interested in me at once. I have lost a bit of weight and look a lot better for it....not used to getting any attention from guys at all tbh.

Glad to hear the nice outcomes for lots of you. I would really like to settle down with someone.....just hard finding a guy that isn't a knob.

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cabernetshiraz · 25/10/2013 16:08

Yay! Good luck & have fun :)

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