depressed wife help

[family3435]

one day my wife told me she wanted a divorce and I had a week to find a place to live.i was shocked I didn't expect this at all.she went to the doc shes depressed and put her on meds.its only been a week and no change.sence she told me to leave she doesn't want me to look,talk, or touch her.how could she feel this way toward me so fast. I love my wife and want to keep her. any advise

Sorry you are going through this. What was your relationship like before this?

Which day?

If you love her then do as she is asking and move out. Show her that you respect her wishes.

It's very common for someone who has been told 'I want a divorce' to think it has come out of the blue. 'I want a divorce' is usually the end of the conversation for the person saying it but the shocking start of the conversation for the person hearing it. She has probably been working up to this moment for a long time in her mind. The fact that she's on ADs could be due to the stress of making the decision or it could even be a sheer coincidence.

In your shoes - and you have my sympathy - I would take her on face value & give her some space.

Sorry you're both going through this, depression is no fun either for the person suffering or their loved ones.

The best thing you can do is give her the space she needs but keep the lines of communication open so when she's feeling a bit better and ready to talk, you're there.

it might be that the divorce remark was a drastic way to get you out of the house so she could be alone, depression tends to make people want to isolate themselves, and that she didn't really mean it. Or it could be genuine and it had been building for some time. You wont know until you give her some time to sort things out. You can also use this time to reflect on the last few months, sometimes life is so busy that things are going on in our relationships that we don't notice.

good luck.