The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Kicking The *Wine Witch* Into Touch, Because Enough Is Enough!

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Hello, tis me, Mouse :)

This is a thread for those who are worried about their drinking habits towards alcohol, or/and drugs.

Even if you think that you are drinking more tonight than last night or this week than last, come and have a chat, find a seat, we don't bite!

We are a supportive Bus, full of very different posters, from various backgrounds. Some of us drink in moderation, allowing ourselves the odd glass or two as a treat, or just because we're in control of our drinking for that day.

One Day At A Time.

We have those who abstain completely, and those who wake every day to Day 1 and hope with all of their hearts that they can, and will, make it to Day 2.

If you've followed our journey to date, you'll know who most of us are by now :) and we kind of have two 'sayings', that sum up who we are -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

That said, we will not have any bashing of support groups, such as AA or Community Support Teams or even your own GP.

This Bus is a place for honesty, sanctuary and safety, something that has taken four years for a number of very special, very lovely, very honest and caring Babes to establish.

So, come find a seat, grab something warm from the supply cupboard at the back of the Bus as it's going to be cold tonight! Brrrr!

And, if you'd like to read back over some of our history, HERE IS THE LAST THREAD

And, HERE IS WHERE IT ALL BEGAN

We hope to meet you soon :) xxx

beaches I wouldn't mind not wanting a drink sometimes but the idea of NEVER wanting one is scary!

And if I did want one, how to know whether it was a 'normal' desire or an unusual addictive desire???

posh not post. oh for fucks sake!

Them fluffy cocks distracted me.

Hot cocks on the bus?

Gerald, Geraldine, Spirit, Barrie......you forgot horrid baby doll!

This bus gets stranger by the minute and joey I am not sure that bringing up normal or unusual desires is going to help elevate the tone!

Maybe we dread more than is actually is dreadful This is spot on for me. I spend so much time projecting on how I am going to feel and more often than not is not the same as what I do feel.

isinde maybe look at it as trying on a new lifestyle rather than losing an old one. No-one has told you you can't go back but perhaps this choice is a better fit right now?

How are you purple? (apparently if you whistle you will summon a manly horse called Susan or was it a horrid baby doll with a fluffy cock, can't remember now)

Stay strong babes

Finishing my first sober week in over four years! Just got back from a firework party where I'd normally have a drink and it was fine. Nobody tried to twist my arm to drink. Wine was offered, I said no as planned and that was it. Simples. I half think I imagine the pressure to drink will be more than it is so I don't even attempt not to...

No, no, def'ly not real...

< cowers behind Isinde >

Well done Annie, looking good in that smock. Wasn't there a badge as well? Isinde, go rummage in that box at the back...

I too have finished a whole week AF here's to the next week and the rest of November fingers crossed sorry not to nc hope everyone is well xx

Oh wow, new clothes, a smock and a badge!!! Seriously though I could not have done this without the bus :)

Fingers crossed we both do November thisis x

indie bloody well done on not rising to the "tired and house like a tip" trigger. A favourite one of mine. Now do man up and go check the dressing up box for the smug badge...just lift that creaking lid and lean in......

I got the first draft of our quarterly magazine today - I am the editor - and saw that my CEO's "welcome" piece was well over the word count. I actually emailed him saying "your column is too big. Do you want me to deal with it?" and yes, this is the same boss from Norkgate.
He has replied saying "not a complaint I am uses to receiving. I trust you to work your magic on it"...I want to DIE.

your column is too big. Do you want me to deal with it?

Hahaha ma that has made my day, that has

[Grin] at faire
I know........but I love my boss.
He sent me an email the other day about someone who had really made the wrong decision - can't go in to details- and I replied, " yeah, he is a real wankbadger" without thinking, and then couldn't recall the email!
He replied bemusedly " aren't those the things they are culling in Somerset?"

I get away with murder! ( but norkgate still makes me cringe)

Just to say I'm here, reading. Off to bed.

IsinDe - wow xxx

Night all.

I have just come back from a bonfire 'do'. I hated every minute of it, got trapped by a drunk 60 year old woman who kept stumbling forwards into me and telling me how awesome and cool everything was. There was wine EVERYWHERE, dh even asked me to hold his glass (until he registered my death stare). Would it have been anymore enjoyable if I had drunk? Well it would have probably softened the edges, I don't know. Anyway now at home with a cup of tea. Think I may be a touch hormonal.
Sigh.

Still it cheered me up immensely to see you triumph tonight isinde, very very well done.

Love to all of you from a fed up and grumpy tea drinker. X

Morning people day 8 here just woke up gutted had a dream that I was drinking and when I woke for a split second thought I drank last night the disappointment was huge so glad it was a dream hope everyone is ok this morning xx

Morning babes

well done all- awesome babes here.

I spoilt bonfire night last year because I wanted to drink but was also trying to stop. I sulked and bitched and whinged at dh & a tiny ds then caved in and bought wine. I thought I was happy since I had what I wanted,ignoring how nasty I'd been to everyone.Not my best mummy moment and since I was 42 I should have been over the tantrum stage.
beaches it definitely wouldn't have helped! Who wants to end up like the drunk oap at the firework party?????

Today I'm really grateful to be sober. I got past the ww moment last night by reading here & on t'other thread and it's helped me deal with my addictive thoughts. Thank you lovely bus and awesome babes

ma Love it!!
umm I don't really know about horridbabydoll and i'm happy to stay in ignorance thank you

Ah this your minds playing tricks on you good to realise it wasn't real though.

beaches I'm a black coffee drinker I'm sick of it , I must find another drink x

Day three for me
Luvs to all of you x

Hi and thanks everyone, this thread has given me so much inspiration.

My sorry tale is that I've been unable to drink in moderation for 2 or 3 years now. Much the same as a lot of other posters, have tried 'testing' myself by giving up completely (3 months at one time) and then trying to see if I could just have a couple of drinks and call it quits. Yes I could, but only for a day, maybe two. The trigger had been set off and it was back to a bottle (of wine), sometimes two, per night.

I just recently (after reading the first few BBB threads) managed 9 days consecutively (had a half-term break away with DCs and good friends, ....all went fab) was even my birthday, first one for god knows how many years when I didn't 'have a drink', read as 'get slaughtered'.

Sorry for long post, but I was wondering if anyone else does the same as me.. self-sabotage, pushing the red button, actually PLANNING when and how I can derail myself by going and buying TWO bottles of wine to soak myself in. Actually crying as i'm typing this. seeing it written down is horrible.

Why do we do it? We know how much better we feel when we don't drink, but we still strive to fuck ourselves up?

Morning, tis me, Mouse

Meet - sweetheart, I'm going out but want to say that YOU'RE not alone. I've planned a 'fuck it' moment, more than once. You'll never be alone on this thread, this Bus!

Be kind to yourself, someone will be here soon, I'm sorry to dash off. I'll come back to you wonderful lady. Keep posting, crying is good, let it out, you're not alone on this thread and you won't be judged. At all xxx

Morning babes and welcome Meet

I can absolutely relate to what you write, on a pre-planned 'fuck it' I would be sure to have enough wine to get hammered, no point otherwise ( in my warped way of thinking). To leap off the wagon for one glass would be unthinkable. 9 days including a birthday is a great achievement, don't forget that. You are not a bad person, how about a deep breath and go again? Many of us stumble but brushing our selves down and trying again is all we can do. X

guggs thanks for want you wrote, I think I may recognize this 42 year old temper tantrum phase . I don't want to be resentful, after all it is ME who wants to make a change and not anyone else's fault I find it bloody difficult. Feel better that you have been there yet moved past it.

New day, no hangover and glad of it. X

Hello Babes. Just come back from an AA mtg. Today is day 5 and finally starting to feel a little bit more normal in terms of mood and anxiety and all that shit. First week is hell. Well done to you all. Sorry on my phone so can't nc but you've all kept me inspired. Xx