Reading a similarly-themed thread has prompted me to be brave and write this one!...I have been single for several years (apart from a few short flings) but started a relationship with a man about 8 months ago. He initiates sex probably more than I do but sometimes when I've initiated it, he doesn't seem that interested (fair enough - don't expect men to be 'up for it' on a non-stop basis!) I find masturbating at night gets me to sleep and so if he's gone straight to sleep/I'm wide awake, I've done this a few times whilst in bed together. A couple of times he has commented in the morning and said he thinks it's really inappropriate and wrong. He says that if he was doing that in the bed next to me, I'd be horrified (not sure I would to be honest but don't think that's the point). I haven't said this to him but don't find sex with him very exciting and find myself having to use my imagination a lot to derive satisfaction.
Anyhow, is it wrong that I have done this - albeit when I thought he was fast asleep, very quietly, and 'discreetly'? His problem is not that he wants to have been involved but simply that I'm doing it in the same room as him. BTW, he has told me that he often does this in the loo before bed/first thing in the morning, and I know that these occasions have not been when I've rejected him/necessarily been asleep. I'm not young (36 years old) but suppose I'm not that experienced in long-term relationships so want to know if I'm crossing boundaries or is he being out of order?