Is it ok to leave for this reason?

[boomoohoo]

My dp and I been together nearly 2 years, moved in together a few months ago, which has excacerbated our problems.

Our problems are, a lack of intimacy and sex. I want more than him to put it bluntly. I have tried communicating with him how important it is to me, how -failing sex, he can make me feel special/desired/wanted in other ways.. Which haven't worked, as his efforts don't last. I feel we are completely emotionally disconnected. He does not feel this at all. Which makes me think he is emotionally inept.

What upsets me most is how he is with my daughter. They have an amazing bond and are very close. I feel so guilty to be taking that away from her. She has regular contact with her biological father who she also adores.

I was always of the 'don't stay cos of the kids' mindset, but for my own life it's heartbreaking. But I can't keep being the unsatisfied, angry, bitter and resentful person that I am at the moment.

YANBU. Life is too short. You are doing the right thing.

It's OK to leave for any reason at all - especially if you are unhappy and unfulfilled. You don't need an excuse.

It's your life, don't waste it on a relationship that leaves you unsatisfied angry & bitter. You deserve better.

It's OK to leave for any reason at all

This ^^

You can leave for any reason.

I was in a relationship where I stayed "for the sake" of DS. In the end, I realised I wasn't doing him any favours because he would have grown up with a very skewed perception of relationships.

It's hard - bloody hard - to leave, but if you want to, you should.

Thank you all.

I'm terrified of being on my own but I know that is not the right reason to stay.

So you don't think I should try talking to him again, for the sake of not disrupting my daughters life?

You describe your relationship as being completely emotionally and sexually disconnected and lacks any intimacy.

Do you think a conversation can change this when he doesn't even feel there is a problem?

I'm my head I feel that breaking up will prove how he feels. If he fights to get me back it'll mean he does love me and got into a shitty habit of not listening to me. If he doesn't, he never loved me anyway..

A good measure?

Not really. People will promise anything under duress. If you break up, do it because you are happy it's the right thing to do. Not because you're trying to extort the right reaction out of him.