Spending more time together - ideas!

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We have a 20 month daughter and haven't been out alone since she was born. oh works long hours, so I don't get to go out with friends in the evening either. He goes out to pub quiz, cycling with his brother, drinks after work. I always drop off and collect dd from childcare and do meals, bedtime etc.
I'm not feeling the love for him any more, and wonder if it can be fixed with more 'couple time'
He wants us to buy a house together in the next year and I have to make sure it's the right thing before doing this. it's either buy the house or leave, both are scary!

Have you been in this place? What did you do? I kind of want to tell him how it is but think it may be a bad idea!

thanks!

You have to talk to him. He seems to get plenty of time to himself, you get none, and the whole thing sounds rather one-sided. So sit him down, tell him how it's going to be, get a babysitter and book dates in the diary - shouldn't be difficult for him to choose you over quizzes and workmates. And do tell him that if you can't reconnect as a couple, it's serious enough to have you wondering if there's any future in the relationship. I thing that's fair.

I agree you have to discuss this. Things seem very one sided - your DH's life has carried on the same while you make all the sacrifices. I think some couple time will help you but so would you having some time for you!

Have a chat with him - no need to be argumentative about it. It could be he hasn't really clocked what is happening.