DP out again. Am I being controlling?

[Sleeplessnightagain]

Sorry if this seems like a very minor silly thing to be bothered about (especially when compared with situations others have to deal with..), I just wondered if I should be pissed off or not.

DP went out yesterday at 12 for 'a couple of hours' to watch cricket/catch up with friends. Phone off all afternoon (was dead when I tried to call at 6 as he was supposed to bring back some ingredients so I could make dinner). Rolls in bladdered at 8.30, said phone battery is dead. Pub is literally 2 mins away so he could have popped back at any time to bring the stuff/let me know his phone is dead.

He is oft out getting drunk; 2 or 3 times per week, usually plans to just 'pop out' but ends up out till tenish. I'm no saint as I had a (very rare) night out sat night and came home very tipsy at midnight, also drink odd glass of wine at home which I enjoy. He had lots of notice about Sat though and I really can't remember the last time before that I went out without him (going out is generally rare since DC, you know what it's like!).

He is not DC's dad, so that may alter a sense of 'obligation' maybe but he's a good man and we've been together a year. This is the only major issue.
What do you think?

To be honest, having read that he is your boyfriend, not live in partner, who has his own place and stays at yours when convenient, then I think he does have a point. He is a boyfriend, not a dp. He has his own place. He went out with mates and you ask him to do your shopping???
You are incensed that he did not? He has no responsibilities towards you, your shopping, your family unit and your kids. You two seem to have too different a view of what this relationship is/was, so I think you have done the right thing splitting up with him.

Nah, I think there's something wrong when one half of a couple wants to spend half the week in the pub getting pissed whether they live together or not. It's not like you've only been together for a couple of months. After a year I'd expect a bit more commitment than that. More than that i'd expect my bf to you know actually want to spend time with me.
YANBU or controlling, personally I'd get rid but then I've no time for pissed people generally.

You don't need someone like this around your kids, squeezing you in when he isn't pissed up. You did want different things. He was selfish, and you were trying to shoehorn him into your family (probably because he gave you a load of pretty flannel about that being what he wanted...?)

You are best off out of it. Find someone who wants the same things as you.