How often do men/women leave a relationship when there is no one else involved?

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I'm just curious. My DMs relationship of 20 years is breaking down. He is an abusive arse. She has her moments (by her own admission). He is demonising her, he's cold, remote and something has 'shifted' that she can't put her finger on. Spends as much time as possible out of the house, sleeps on the sofa etc... I think there's someone else involved, she's not so sure.

But without going over their situation, of the proportion of LTR/marriages you know that have split, how many have involved an OM/OW (physically/emotionally/just a new friendship)?

My mum has always said to me 'Men don't leave'...I know that's a bit of a sexist remark, but is it true?

I left because of dv. No other person involved.

Then I was in a 11 month relationship and I broke it off. Nobody else either.

From what you say, she should be the one kicking him out.

Exactly, Lweji. She's always been too scared of finances (she's not living the life or anything - just scared of what the future holds for a singleton on a very small pension). She's thrown so many years at a shitty relationship, always saying she'd do something about it next week or after a loans paid or after Christmas. Terrible waste of life.