Have you ever done this with your dp/dh?

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Send naked photos? I started seeing a guy fairly recently, although we've been casual friends for years so I haven't just met him. We finished this weekend, well we're taking a break...a whole other thread. Basically I've just left a long and abusive marriage and we realised that it was a bad time to be starting something new.
But a few weeks ago me and the new bf were chatting on the phone one night...he had sent me a naked pic of himself the night before and he passed a comment that it would be nice for me to do the same. I just kind of laughed it off and it wasn't mentioned again until this weekend...we had a good chat about why we should have a break and he brought up the fact that I have many confidence issues, particularly around sex and intimacy. He wasn't being cruel...hes right and I'm starting counselling as I knew this myself. He commented on the fact that I wouldn't send the pic that time and that I found stuff like that difficult even though he views it as a healthy part of a relationship. I've been with my dh since I was 18 so have very limited experiences in relationships so I suppose I'm just wondering whether he's right and its a fairly typical thing to do in relationships?

Not illegal but extremely risky.

Bollocks- me and exp sent photos but not too naked - generally always wearing something (he was easily pleased) and generally it was a two way thing. It was funny more than anything and once he even made a little cartoon storyboard about him hoovering the stairs naked. It was more humorous than sexy. Now he's dumped me and this thread has made me think where are those photos now. Shit , bollocks, poo.

It actually is illegal. I've listened to a talk given by a police officer. I hope he wasn't lying.

Absolutely NO WAY.

Sorry, but seen so so many cases where photos have been passed on / posted up/ended up stolen by mate and posted where the person would be horrified.

However nice he seems, NO. And Im not convinced about nice, if he's pushing you when you don't want to.

You don't leave your car keys in the ignition and the door unlocked, you don't give strangers your bank card + security number, and you don't send naked pictures of yourself over the phone / net. Not unless you have thought about where they might end up and don't mind.

yama my EXP is a police officer. Oops outed him
Now ... Show me bothered.

I work in an FE college and this is one of those things that we warn students about - stexting as it's called - is a bad idea, I've dealt with breakups that have turned ugly where these pictures can be used in anger/bullying. I'm sure that it's not restricted to young adults

Just to clarify, I was not naked. It was a headless shot of my boobs in a bra. She just guessed it was me, and boyfriend didnt deny it very well. No more or less than someone would see on a beach. In fact a lot less than someone would see if they shared a changing room with me at the gym. He has one picture of me in a bra and knicker set with my face in. Bloody flattering picture of mw though, and no more or less than in most magazines now.

Yama, might the talk have been directed towards young people?

Have done it with dp and an ex, only sent pictures I liked and very rude ones didn't have my face attached.
If you aren't comfortable in doing it then don't.

I'm pretty sure it's not illegal as long as one person isn't underage (and presumably that you're not receiving money for them, although that may be legal too...)

There is no way I'd send over the net or phone naked pictures to anyone.

I wouldn't even take one on a digital camera really.

Phones and computers can be stolen or hacked into, and pictures can be sent by mistake.

I have no problems getting naked in front of anyone. Just not for pictures to circulate.

Not sure how he justify it as a healthy part of a relationship.
Physical intimacy, yes, on your terms of course. Sending naked pictures on the other hand, it's not intimacy. It's providing wank fodder for him.

While you are together = wank fodder.
When you split up = brag fodder
And that's the least worrying part.

No! But then we've had no need to.

Once a pic has been text, anything can happen to it. As many a poor soul has discovered.

There is no way I'd send over the net or phone naked pictures to anyone - actually there is no way in a million years that I would ever pose naked/in underwear etc in the first place .

In underwear I might, just as long as it was not too revealing. I have a few photos in a bikini.

But if I was going to risk being all over the internet, then I'd rather have had received Playboy fees for them.