Stressful blended family

[Dizzy79]

Good Morning :S
Bit of a long one but needed to rant.

I have been with my partner for over a year. We have known each other all our lives and get on really, really well but..

He is very unorganised and does not manage his money very well. As a student I get enough for me and my children, he is also a student and has his own funding. The problem is by being unorganised his money is not sorted yet, Frustrating.

The other problem is the kids. I have three and he has two. I have tried to make my home their home as well but space is a problem. His 2 share with my 2 but we have 3 boys and 1 girl in there. I feel bad for my girl as its a boys room. There is the problem of toys also. My partners boys have loads! The playroom is overflowing. My partner likes to spoil his kids but he doesn't seem to realise that we don't have the room or money for that. My kids don't as much as them on birthdays or Christmas and now we are a family we need to have the same rule for all the kids.

I do like his kids, the youngest can be difficult but I have tried to be kind. The problem is my children do misbehave when his kids are here at the weekends. The boys get on really well but they gang up on my youngest and she retaliates by hitting, then my partner tells her off. He is very strict whereas I am quite relaxed. He believes there is no problem with his kids but my eldest teen daughter avoids the house when they are here.

I cant help feeling that my home, time and cash are not my own anymore. :(

I love my partner but I really am starting to think I was happier, if not more stressed as a single mum

HELP

Don't waste your life with someone who thinks he can be 'strict' with your kids, exclude them from their own home (your eldest teen) and let others gang up on them. They are your top priority, not this cuckoo family.... Also don't waste you life with someone who is irresponsible for his own cash and then spends your money for you. Just on the strength of what you've written, I really don't like this man. If you think you'd be happier and less stressed without him, good luck getting rid.

so does he contribute to your bills, your rent, the food etc? Or iis he "too disorganised" - for me that reads "cocklodger" if you are funding his lifestyle.

If his kids are ganging up on the little girl and and he is telling HER off, then that would be a deal breaker for me - Our boys know to never ever hit girls, and if they do, punishment is swift and severe regardless of who started it - it

He has no money coming in. The thing is he is good with the kids. His kids do as theie told mine will answer back. I like the term cocklodger lol. So confused as we do get on really well its since the money situation happened that I felt a bit used? Always struggeled with the kids. Silly things like we all cant fit in my car so trips out are difficult. My eldest gets on with my partner she just avoids when his kids are here. Another problem is we are at the same uni! He has said when his grant comes through he will just put the money into my bank.

And will this grant cover the back rent, groceries, utilities and all the other stuff he's been happily availing himself of? I can't abide freeloaders.... especially the sort that think they can have a go at other people's children.

What do you get out of this relationship?. The bloke's a freeloading cocklodger who seems also more than happy to have a go at your child.

He must think you were born yesterday re putting his grant money into your account when it arrives.

Honestly, give him the boot and stop wasting your life on such a creature. You'd be better off on your own. He was never your project to rescue and or save.