He has gone.

[awakemysoull]

Hi everyone

I'm not sure if any of you will remember my other threads about my abusive dp - I had an abortion a few days ago if that jogs anyone's memory.

He left this afternoon

Bastard took the telly with him

It's taken me years to wise up to how abusive he has been and when he left me in labour to go to the pub I started making plans to leave.

Every time I have asked him to leave he refused but this afternoon he agreed, got his stuff and left.

I feel strange.

He was screaming at me this morning because I ate a freddo last night

I'm a fat cow and a useless and unfit mother who will soon have my children taken away. It doesn't even scare me anymore. I know he can't do anything and I know they will stay with me.

I have the house and most of the stuff in it.

I am waiting on my landlord coming out to change the locks for me because he wouldn't leave his key. He won't be getting back in again any time soon. If he turns up I've to phone the police.

I'm so happy I can start to rebuild my life but part of me is a bit when I think about the future we had planned. I know it was never going to be but it's still a bit upsetting.

I've lost £300 because I had to cancel the holiday and they wouldn't refund me

Sorry you are living this, I didn't see your other thread but hope you can start to relax and start to live now.

I saw a recent thread asking about the defining moment MNers knew their relationship was over. A few posters knew it but were still trapped. I didn't post but felt so sorry for anyone in that situation.

Now you are free. Stay safe. You know that he would have brought you nothing but further heartache.

Well done

have you cancelled the holiday because you could have gone to the GP and asked for a letter to say you were unfit to travel due to the breakup--depression, low mood etc. You would have got the money refunded.

I remember your previous post on "definitive moments" so I'm glad you came back.

You might well be feeling a little down right now, but you should be can-canning along the rooftops now you're rid of that horrible cunt.

Be kind to yourself and one day, you'll realise what a bullet you dodged.

x

Good luck OP.
This is the start of good things to come

awake, well done

I have seen your posts and am very glad you are free today. Make sure your ex can't get back in - take no chances while you wait for the lock change.

You sound sad and bereft at the moment. With the abortion as well, you've had a horrible time. Please, call on anyone you know and trust in RL who can support you.

Free from all the abuse, including the financial abuse from your partner, life is going to get so much better. Try to be nice to yourself just now ...

Despite everything, you sound positive, and so you should. You have taken control you told him to leave, and he did.

You know you're a good mum, and the DC will feel so much more peaceful living in a house where Daddy doesn't scream at Mummy.

Onwards and upwards!

300 quid is a small price to pay for getting rid of that fucker

Best money you ever spent - bargain!!

Hello!!! I remember you and pm'd you.
Well girl....this is the start of the rest of your life. You actually sound more ok than you did the other day.

Stick to your guns. Yes to the locks changed. Defo ring the police.

You are going to be just fine. X
Btw.....get on freecycle the website where people give things for free. You'll be able to get a tv given to you until you can afford one.

I think defining moment is when you are more upset about the loss of a tv. Onwards and upwards op with the rest of your life. It will only get better.