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Response to an apology from friend

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Parisbanana · 17/10/2013 21:14

A very old friend and I had what was a petty disagreement. Sadly it escalated and she said some pretty nasty stuff. I know it was said in the heat of the moment, she doesn't 'actually mean what she said I'm fairly sure. But it really hurt me tbh.
AnywAy she's sent an email saying "I owe you an apology. I'm sorry x"
I don't know how to respond. I don't want to say oh it's fine, because it isn't really. Equally I'm not aiming for a permanent rift. I don't actually really want her to stew (well maybe just a bit Grin)
Any advice on how to reply? As it was emailed it gives me chance to compose a considered response, but I need help considering!
Thanks.

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basketweaver2012 · 17/10/2013 22:05

I think that if you want to remain friends then you should accept her apology but let her know how much it hurt you what she said.
We all say things in the heat of the moment, mainly when we are backed into a corner and angry. It's a pretty common human fault to lash out and once those things are said it's often difficult to get past but nobody's perfect.
If you think of every time you've either said something to a partner that you know you shouldn't have said and didn't really mean if you took the hump we'd all be alone forever!
it sounds like she's biting the bullet and apologising.
I was in a similar situation with a good friend and we both said horrible things over something silly. But we are both pig headed and now don't speak which is sad.

Leavenheath · 17/10/2013 22:14

I'd reply: Can you give me a ring so we can chat about this?

This isn't a conversation that should be conducted by E mail. Too easy to hide behind the screen and too much room for misinterpretations.

saggyhairyarse · 17/10/2013 22:15

Life is too short. I would respond with: Thanks for the apology, I appreciate it :) Coffee?

Abbierhodes · 17/10/2013 22:21

I lost a friend in a similar manner. There is no going back for us, and I wish there was.
Life is very, very short...accept the apology if you feel it is genuine and you care about the friendship.

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Parisbanana · 17/10/2013 22:53

Thank you all very much.
We can both be a bit stubborn so I do appreciate what it has taken for her to send that.
We have been friends for over 30 years (except for a few years when we lost touch, no falling out) and I really don't want to lose that friendship.
Feel much happier now, will contact her tomorrow Smile

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Abbierhodes · 17/10/2013 22:54

Let us know how you get on :)
Wish I could do the same...

cjel · 17/10/2013 22:59

If you know how hard that was for her then I take it and try and move onx

arsenaltilidie · 18/10/2013 13:26

Everyone deserves a SECOND chance.

Accept it and move on, there is really no point in dwelling on it if you think the apology is genuine.

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