A friend of mine has just had her first baby. The dad of the baby dumped her while she was pregnant- after messing about with her head for weeks and starting to display really controlling behaviour.
Since her DD was born he's turned up again -at the hospital after a really traumatic birth. He oscillates between passive aggressive and threatening her (both in person & by text). She is staying with her mum & they're both frightened of him turning up at their house. Her mum can't stand him but understands that he has a 'right' to see his daughter - he's told them often enough
I want to give her advice but I'm really not sure what to say. So far I've said;
- Anyone can father a child but he now needs to demonstrate a sustained ability to be a dad
- Keep all the text messages he sends
- Consider swapping your mobile number & only look at your old SIM once a week to check his texts
- Contact the police and tell them you're scared of him
This is all advice I've picked up from reading the threads on here. What am I missing?