My friend tells me he has PAID for SEX!!!

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So I used to work with this guy and he was always great for a laugh. I knew things weren't great with his wife but on Friday night having had far too many to drink he tells me a lot about it and I asked him had he ever been unfaithful. He looked at me and I thought I knew he had and I even thought I knew who with.

Go on I said you can tell me it was X wasn't it I saw her throwing herself at you. No no he said yes He could have had her but no he had paid for sex a couple of times. Well I didn't know what to say and clearly he is very unhappy but I was a little shocked.

Well when I told DP he said that he read somewhere that 1 in 3 men have paid for sex.

Thing is the woman who was throwing herself at him is georgeous but he wanted the 'no strings' sex.

My best friend got into this too. He used to go over to Eastern Europe with older colleagues and got into the habit (prostitutes lined up at the hotel bar etc). He told me he'd still sometimes go to fairly expensive brothels and that what he liked about it was that you didn't have to talk to the women (!?!) You just go in, decide who you like the look of and then get down to the business.

Just thought aren't they a bunch of apes compared to us though?

Nice friends!!!

Yeah but if what my DP read is true then we probably all have friends that pay for sex. At 1 in 3 the odds are in favour of that don't you think?

We've had this discussion before. That statistic is ridiculous!

And to be quite honest, who gives a shit? It's not my business what my friends may or may not have done in the past. If they were cheating then I'd tell them what I think, which I have done in the past, but if they are single then I really couldn't care less who or what they do it with!

I don't believe the 1 in 3 figure at all.

Fio, agree with that (one woman I know immediately sprang to mind - always want to ask her if she'd be with him if he wasn't wealthy as sin ).

But the 1 in 3 statistic is surely insane.

True. There are certain women who might as well ask for money! One acquaintance I knew (not a friend!) wanted to sleep with every member of a band she liked, incl my bil who had a girlfriend. I don't know if she managed or not. But she would pick up men from this nightclub, then go to the back of the club or in an alleyway to have sex.

She might as well have charged them and made a bit of money in the process!

Why do you think 1 in 3 stat is insane. If it was true what would that make you think about Men and relationships?

Nothing to be quite honest. If it was single men doing it I would give a flying poo. If it was married men then I would think that they all stink.

But women are not angels you know. We don't pay for sex because there isn't the demand for male prossies for women, but I don't think you can say that men are worse than women, cause they're not.

If it was single men doing it I wouldn't give a flying poo!

DP was wrong according to BBC. A recent survey of 11,000 found 1 in 10 using prositutes as opposed to 1 in 20 ten years ago. Still quite high though if accurate.

My friend is struggling after the break up of her marriage, 12 years and 3 kids. He's being really nasty. Awkward about child care arrangements, wont plan ahead. Trying to take the house away from her paying maintenance irregularly and now parading his new girlfriend in front of the kids all weekend! I know this story is nothing new. Surely someone has written a book about how to cope... How can I support her?

Oops posted that in the wrong place, sorry!!

Not that unusual

bizzi - I was waiting for the story to turn to prostitution!

Now there's an idea for her Rhubarb!

some men see that becasue they have paid for it it isnt really cheating as there is no emotional attachment on either sides.

If you are single then I dont think paying for sex is a problem for men or women. They should make it legal and tax it!

I had a friend who had an x gf. He still had sex with her very now and then but would always give her some cash afterwards. He explained to me it was so that she would get the clear message that it was just no strings sex and she wouldn't start to read anything else into it. He even seemed quite proud of himself for coming up with such a great arrangement.

Needless to say I didn't see it quite the same way.

shimmy, that is kind of tacky, isn't it?!! Much better if he told her 'this is no strings/ no relationship sex' than giving her cash afterwards!!

well imo better that they go out and pay for it than have one night stands with somen who will just feel used afterwards. Yes the prostitutes are being used but they're doing it willingly and making a living out of it. Personally I can't understand how any woman could sell her body but each to their own I guess, and personally I think they should make it legal and taxable.