I just don't know what's the matter

[cookiemonster100]

In need of mumsnets help!!
Am 35 weeks pg with DC 1 & my DH has turned from being my hero into a grumpy arse!

He's generally helpful ( I do have to ask but he still does it!) but over the past week I am walking on egg shells around him. He is grumpy, tired & sulky. I have asked him what's wrong & he says he doesn't know. I have also told him if he does to talk to me about it & not hide stuff as he doesn't want to burden me.

Well today I had enough! I ended up doing loads of chores & not asking for his help. The bloody arse just spent the afternoon on the computer playing games. This just ended up in me resenting him for what I perceive as being a sulky teenager. Hence an evening of each other being in a grump with each other. This is not constructive & is only making matters worse.

Thing is I want to talk to him about stuff. I want to be able to talk to him about birth plan / hospital bag stuff / nursery stuff but the way he is I don't feel he can handle so now i feel on my own.

Is this pre baby nerves? He says he feels stressed but when I ask him what about he doesn't know.

Help please xx

Is he used to it being all about him?

You should have asked for his help - or rather divided the chores up. It's ridiculous that you were doing everything while he was sitting on his backside doing nothing.

What kind of man lets his very heavily pregnant wife do all the chores while he sits on his arse playing computer games?

Seriously, sort this out before your baby comes.

You're already really pissed off with each other. There is nothing to be lost, and everything to be gained, by actually having the confrontation.

I am trying to sort it out but all I get is " I don't know"! Normally if I say what's needs doing round the house & tell him he will do it. It's just today I couldn't be arsed with his mood & he didn't come & offer to help which made me resent him. I am going back to telling him what needs doing.

It's i just feel in my own as there is no support from him. If I don't ask it's not there.

If I be honest as I am now at home on mat leave & he has days off in the week I think he resents me being in his alone time. He can't be the man child he normally is. But surely this is no reason to be stressed?!

Bloody arse when I need him he is turning into all about him!! I really don't need this now :(

"If I be honest as I am now at home on mat leave & he has days off in the week I think he resents me being in his alone time."

Well he needs to get used to not having "alone time" any more.

You could tell him to fuck off elsewhere until he is prepared to talk to you like an adult.

Maybe you need to come down hard on him and say that these next few weeks are a really precious time for you. It's the end of your single years, really; after the baby's born everything changes. Tell him if he intends to spoil this time for you then he has to leave. Shock him into seeing sense, even if you have to get him out of there for a few days.