So will try and keep this brief have been with my bf 2 years, 3 months ago I found done facebook messages between him and his ex, not just any ex the 19 year old he left his wife for when he was 27, he is now 37!
Now I always knew they chatted via fb every now and then even saw some messages nothing to be concerned about but three months ago I came across a conversation that basically was talking about meeting up, he was nearly begging her, these are done if the messages he sent
"Before I hit 40 we gotta meet up lol"
"All this talk of meeting, drinking, dressing up has given me movement in my pants"
"One day and night were getting a hotel for old times sake and you can do what you want to me"
" I'm up for meeting if you are"
" def 100% want to meet up we have threatened to do this for ages"
"Call me next week after Tuesday and we can arrange, you can take your midlife crisis out on me, it will be awesome" (the ref to Tuesday was because he would be back at work and not with me)
Basically he clearly didn't here anything on the Tuesday because 8 days later he then contacted her again, she was away in France and he left that convo with this message
"Have good hols, catch up soon ))))))) xx"
This was the day I found out!!! I of course went mental texted bf saying know about name/hotel etc and switched phone off and messaged her telling her what I thought, she came back to me very sorry about it, had shown her husband and that he wasn't worried as he. Knew there was nothing in it and that she is a terrible flirt and that it meant nothing just shit convo as they really have nothing to say to each other, she also have me her husbands number so I could call them and chat about it.
My boyfriend immediately drove to mine was sorry said it was just drunk banter (and I know 100% he was drunk when the messages were sent) it was a horrible emotional few days that followed and I tried to except that he was sorry and that he meant it when he said it would never of happened!
Now 3 months on I'm really struggling was it just banter??? Can't help think that the fact he made first mov and messaged her again 8 days later means he had every intention of going though with it!
It's driving me mad, it hurts, I just don't get it our relationship was going great all this came at a time when we were talking about moving in.
I just can't seem to get over this, I'm still so bitter, please help me with your views, advice etc xxx