exP and pics of my ds.

[Stroppygoddess]

Canvassing opinion and asking advice.

My friend's ex-partner keeps posting pictures of him with her son (aged 5) on FB. He's changed his main profile picture to one of him and her ds holding hands.

They were together about 18 months. He became abusive (cheated, controlling, lying) and she finished the relationship - he moved out of her house two months ago leaving her in a financial mess but glad he's gone.

He has pestered her constantly since.

She reported him to the police, who paid him a visit and warned him not to go near where she lives.

He took no notice.

She's blocked him from FB and doesn't return his texts. She can't see what pics he has up on FB, but I can and have told her.

She's spoken to the police again about the pictures and texts but the officer said that he's just sad and lovelorn.

He is not related to her son in anyway and the relationship is totally over.

Is it ok that he should continually post photos of him and her son?
Should she do nothing and wait til he stops?

Surely he cannot publish pics of a child he doesn't have parental responsibility for? It will be a civil rather than a criminal matter though - speak to a solicitor.

Hope he is not having contact with the boy?

She can't afford a solicitor.

These are pictures taken when they were together so he has a right to use them too?

Technically I think because Facebook is public the law would see it as publishing pics of a minor which can only be done with the consent of the person/s with PR. If he owns the pics he has a right to keep them but not publish them without her permission.

But I can't tell you for sure.

@OP

I think he's just doing this to provoke a reaction from your friend. Best advice to her is to just ignore him in every way & he WILL get bored and move on eventually.

Going down the legal route will be expensive, timing consuming and stressful & playing right into his hands....

Probably a good idea also, to limit any kind of photo taking etc of the kids with any future partner until she is 100% sure the relationship is for real.

If any new guy is genuine & your friend explains what has happened previously, then there is no reason why anyone wouldn't understand and honour her wishes.

Best of luck to your friend and hope she gets it sorted out quickly & with the least amount of upset.

If he took the pictures he can do whatever he likes with them, regardless of the the subject, unless they are indecent of course.

It's unfortunate but I had this exact issue with an ex friend.

All she can do is report them to Facebook and h

And hope they remove them.

Thanks for your thoughts and advice. x

I'm not sure that's true weare. Putting photos on Facebook is considered publishing them, ownership of the actual photos aside I don't think you are allowed to publish photos of children without permission from the person/s with PR.

(Although caveat that I agree it seems a minor issue that he is likely hoping to provoke her over and I'd just ignore it if I were her).

Unfortunately whomever takes the picture, (often but not always) as long as they have permission to take the picture, owns the image and the copyright and can do whatever they like with it.

An ex friend of mine used photos she took of my DS at a party and published them on her Facebook pages and website for advertising for her business, she even used the photos in a newspaper advert and displayed one of the photos in her shop window, and there was nothing I could do about it because I allowed her to take the pictures.

I tried to take legal action but it didn't really have any legal argument so was advised it was a pointless battle.

Apparently if you follow this link and state that the images violate the Children's Online Protection Act & that they are unauthorised pictures of the child Facebook will remove them eventually. You need to link the URL of each picture and fill in a separate form for each pic though.