Am I being over sensitive?

[rabbitrabbit]

Hello,

I could really do with some impartial advice!

I have just had yet another phone conversation with my mother that has ended with me feeling angry and frustrated-but am I being oversensitive.

My ds is now 3 and I've been a sahm with him since birth (wasn't intending to but then couldn't leave him to go back to work). Since then-whenever my mother's feeling a bit down and unhappy with her lot-she makes comments like
"you should get a part time job, at least it would get you out of the house"
"well, at least you'll be using your brain again"
"summer's coming so are you going to lose that weight"
etc

She's not particularly maternal and we don't have a great relationship (from my viewpoint-she's told me herself she tells others that we're close...wtf)

It's the comments about "getting out of the house" that do my head in for some reason. She really annoys me with that crap .
She knows full well we have a lovely full life-one which she is jealous of-and I really don't know why I'm so angry.

Am I being over sensitive?

I wouldn't say over sensitive. From what you say, should you really be surprised, though?

Walk away and tell yourself you chose your life, you love your life and she's jealous of your happiness.

Not over sensitive, understandably hurt I'd say.

Ignore!

You're right. They don't surprise me.
I've had alot of these type of conversations with her recently because she's been off work ill and having lots of free time has always been a problem for her-too much time for contemplation methinks.

Thanks for the response though-I was beginning to think I needed to loosen up a bit

Thanks kbear-you're also right.
Wouldn't it be nice for someone, just once, to tell you that you're doing a good, worthwhile job? Would that hurt?

Sod em!

Sorry, I didn't mean to sound harsh. Try to ignore her though, sounds like she has too much time on her hands as you say. Chin up.

You weren't harsh happydaddy. I think I needed to get a different viewpoint and perspective and its helped. Thanks

Hi rabbitrabbit, she sounds just like my mother!!

we are close but she really gets on my nerves when she says about getting out the house etc etc she acts like she was the perfect mother when she wasn't (but then who is??) but some how I think she's trying to help in her own really annoying way...

I must admit I am a little sensitive in general when she makes comments...so I decided to just listen,nod and then do what the bloody hell I want!!

She sounds like she's being an arse so sing this little song which I made up (so will be crap)

Arse holes,Arse holes,
They hang about when the light goes out,and gentle glow from head to toe.

It came from a advert years ago for a glow worm toy and should be
Glow worms,glow worms
They hang about when the light goes out and gentle glow from head to toe.

pmsl heavenis! fantastic-that will take the edge off any comments in the future!

cataloguequeen-there's too many of them out there isn't there. I'm not a perfect mother myself (again, who is?)!

Thanks for the comments-I'm not stressed at all now

ooooh she sounds just like my mother. When I went through a rough time last year her first response was "I think you should go back to work". wtf? /She thinks she knows it all and thinks she has all the answers including telling me the other day that we should stop ttc so that we can go on holiday to florida next year! Despite the fact she knows we've been ttc for over a year now.

It does wind me up, but in reality I know that she's just jealous and resentful and I try to ignore as much as poss ... easier said than done though so you have my sympathies.