Do you 'need' anyone?

[Heartofgoldheadofcabbage]

Had a big row with other half. He made comment regards my sister (was going through a difficult time) and made a throw away comment " she needs a man to keep things on the straight and narrow" or words to that effect.

Now my OH puts his foot in his mouth regularly and sometimes blurts things out without thinking and with an apparent complete lack of sensitivity. But after 4 years together I understand him and his frustration at sometimes trying to find the right thing to say in difficult situations. I get frustrated at having to explain appropriate-ness. Truth be known I just wish he was more emotionaly intelligent.

Anyway we had a massive row and I have pretty much been silent and moody since ( I would say contemplating! ). I was trying to get across my POV that nobody 'needs' anyone...I want him, love him, and choose to be with him. He cannot belive I said (shouted!) that I dont need him and noone 'needs' anyone.

I genuinely belive that noone needs anyone...is this normal? Is my view to extreme? Would appreciate some feedback. I have a lot of thoughts going round in my head and wondering if crap from my past is the reason I feel this strongly about 'need' vs 'want'?
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I meant have you established why he was so upset that you said you didn't need him in this context (after he said your sister needed a man to keep her on the straight and narrow). It seems like he is saying he believes women need a man to defend them and that is why your sister is struggling. If you said you didn't need him and it was his belief that women need a man to defend them, that might feel emasculating to him.

Hanging you obviously needed to get that negative and aggressive response down so congratulations! But I don't need your good luck(s)!

Offred yes. It was more based on his insecurity that he wants to be needed and valued. Less about being emasculated and more about having a place, a 'role' in the world...and our relationship. ( he was abandoned by parents, bullied by his only sibling and constantly thrown out and abused by an ex). So there is history there which has a baring on how he feels.

To everyone else thank you for your responses. Certainly has given us both something to think about.