Can someone help me unpick this. I met a man a few months ago. We hit it off. Really hit it off. We dated and then I got cold feet and pulled back. Now we're "friends". I've had another casual boyfriend throughout which has given me a good excuse to push back. But I keep bouncing back to this man. Texts, meet-ups, etc. There are legitimate reasons why a relationship might not be ideal. I'm at the point where I want to settle down, he has practical barriers to this. I feel that if we tried it properly it would either really work or go really wrong. But why can't I just take the risk? I now feel like I'm having an EA. I have no commitment to my BF so the obvious thing would be to end that and just see what happens. But I'm scared. I think more of it going right (with all the difficulties that would entail) than it going wrong. I'm at the point where I'm finally ready mentally to meet someone and settle down. Now the actual prospect of having met the right person terrifies me.