DP's ex sending inappropriate emails

[FeelingMisled]

I've been with my DP for 2 years and we generally have a very good relationship. The only problem is his ex, who was with him for a year and treated him very badly by all accounts (corroborated by DP's best friend).

She still calls and emails my DP regularly but since I told him how much it upsets me, he no longer responds unless he has to. He also shows me when he gets an email from her. They need to exchange a few emails at the moment as they are organising for him to send some of her stuff back (long story - it should have been done much sooner but never mind).

He sent her a brief email yesterday. It was neutral and to-the-point - just discussing returning her stuff. I have no problem with this as I want to get her stuff sent back for all our sakes! However, she then sent him a very long email back including gems such as: 'I still see us as Romeo and Juliet', 'eat one of my favourite ice creams for me', 'I had a really intense dream about you last night' and 'do you still have the lock of my hair'? Ironically she also asked after me, but I can't take that seriously after the rest of the email!

I don't think she realises that he shows me her emails. This has been going on since we've been together (2 years!) and I'm just so fed up of it. I know it shouldn't bother me because I know he's committed to me, but it does.

Yeuch. Would bother anyone. Your DP is doing the wise thing by showing you everything.

I guess get the stuff back to her asap; if she tries to drag it out, then give her a time and place to pick it up and if she doesn't come then, leave it on the street. You can check that legally, but I think you're entitled to do that.

And then no more contact, full stop, ever. If she mails / texts / whatever, delete it. If she's coming on that strong, she might try all sorts of things to get attention; you both might have to be hard arsed and simply block it all.

Sorry but your DP should have been more proactive in ending this contact - 2 years and she's still the scene, he hasn't been very forceful has he.

Of course it should bother you, it would bother anyone, I bet it'd bother your DP.

For her to be writing that she obviously feels comfortable in the knowledge that he's not going to tell her to fuck off.

She's disrespecting your relationship and playing a game with him and sorry but it sounds like he's participating - to a point.

If I was you I'd be telling him once and for all, enough is enough.

2 years? How much stuff are we talking and how far away does she live??