This happened a while back but I didn't know about Mumsnet back then so...
When we were married for just a few months Dh was friendly with 2 people he worked with, (too friendly I thought). His mate 'Kevin' lived round the corner and used to be every 5 mins or Dh would be there and a girl called'Carrie'. He would spend hours on his laptop talking to Kev and Carrie until very late/early morning and it made me very uncomfortable. One day dh says he's going to go to The Mall shopping with Kev (think it was near Christmas time) before he went he said that because Carrie was leaving the section had ordered a bouquet and it was supposed to be yellow roses, however when they turned up one of them, in the centre was red (so she said, he didnt see them) and her Mum went off at her for getting involved with a married man!??! Now how did her Mum know they were from Dh if they were from a whole work section??? I thought this was odd that he told me, cos otherwise I'd never have known. Later when he was out I was using his laptop and found conversations he'd had with Kev and some other bloke he worked with about Carrie, that I found inappropriate. The one with Kev was along the lines of her leaving and 'out of sight, out of mind' and that it should make things easier and th one with the other bloke was sort of the same thing but the work mate said 'I thought you were married' and Dh said 'I am, which is why its so difficult'. I confronted Dh and went BALLISTIC, to put it mildly, he claimed it was just 'normal male banter'. On another occasion I found another conversation with the line from Kev 'you should have seen your face when you saw the trousers she was wearing, Mr Teepee'. Again I went absolutely mad (and actually forwarded the conversation to Kev and to Carrie asking for an explanation) and again he denied anything, saying I was paranoid of 'male banter'. He also said that if he ever did anything to hurt me, Kev thought a lot of me and would break his legs, so why would Kev think it was appropriate to have these conversations with him??? What do you think? They have now 'disappeared' and aren't mentioned, I think Carrie still goes when Dh goes to play pool and it still makes me uncomfortable to think of it, I have asked him not to see her again and he has refused. What do I do?