Need some orgasm advice

[PepperidgeFarm]

Ok, sorry if the title is a bit blunt but wanted to grab your attention! And i really do hope some of you lovely (or even the not so lovely ones!) can offer advice.

I've been seeing someone for a little while now. It's all been going really well, we like each other a lot, get on, really enjoy each other's company etc. No major hiccups..except the sex. It starts off great, we enjoy each other's bodies, we both get very aroused. But then he can't seem to reach orgasm. He'll get close and then lose his erection. He has managed it a few times, and he says he has no trouble if he has a wank on his own (sorry if TMI but seems relevant). But mostly, we can keep trying for ages and he just doesn't get there.

Has anyone had any experience of this or have any advice?

I think a a wank and sex ban would probably work wonders. Let it build for a while, and talk about what he would find a real turn on. After a couple of weeks, get together and see what happens. He may well come rather too early but you will have a starting point.

Don't try to solve this problem overnight and he needs to agree that he doesn't bang away for hours.

It's still a very new relationship and he might be more in to you than you him.He probably senses this.Finishing him with a HJ would probably build his confidence and trust and eventually have the desired result but you shouldn't force yourself to so something you find distasteful,as for the mess, a towel or tissues handy could solve that one.

There is obviously something there between you and might be worth some work.

I would find his attitude a total turn off - both sexually and in general.

He is the one with the problem here and yet he seems to be making you responsible for fixing it, whilst being unwilling to change his behaviour.

If he isn't willing to try not wanking and only messing about, no PIV sex for a couple/few weeks then really, that says it all about his attitude to life and I'd be out of there.

Thanks - I agree that there is something there and it's worth working on. Will talk to him tomorrow and see where we go from there.