Advise from the ladies what to do?

[herald]

I have posted on here quite in depth over the last month about the break up of my 20 yr marriage after my wife's affair 3months ago.

Anyway I have not been looking to start dating but today during my job out on a site I got talking to the receptionist on the desk of a hotel, same age as me bit of flirting both ways, as I left she said 'sure you will meet someone soon'

When I arrived at my next appointment I decided to bite the bullet and ring the hotel to see if she wanted to go out for a drink or coffee, she said yes and she is single, gave me her mobile number and said I finish around 3 ish give me a text / call later.

Anyway I got home at 17.30 feeling absolutely elated for the first time since my split. I text her asking did she still want to go out and when was good with her, got no reply so far.

Know over to you I am new to this, do I text again (don't want to seem pushy or desperate) or just leave it, how long should I leave It before trying to contact again. I keep thinking what if I have wrote the number down wrong .

What would you do?

Leave it for a couple of days at least.

wait, text again you'll look a wee bit to eager!! Def giveit a few days, maybe wait overweekendthen on mon you can text again to say hi,hioe she had a good weeknd? niceand casual reason to get back n touch?

I would leave it based purely on the fact that if I was interested I would reply to your first text and there would be no need to send subsequent ones. I might not reply straight away however, because I do actually have a life and can go many hours without checking my phone.

Do you think this might be too soon? I doubt you're looking for a relationship right now, but are you the type who can keep things light and casual? Sometimes a little flirtation can do wonders for a battered ego, but other times dating before you're ready can send you right down to the bottom.

Ok thanks for the advise Dahlen it's a bit of a reality check , I am not looking for a relationship just someone to have a drink and a chat. Maybe I am looking to boost my confidence and yes I feel like it has even if nothing comes of it, for the first time in months I feel like I will sleep better tonight.

But i think you are correct I will leave it and not contact again maybe it wasn't to be this time.

Just enjoy it for what it was. There is nothing wrong in enjoying a pleasant conversation with an attractive woman who is flirting with you, but it doesn't have to lead to a date. Smiles and subtle appreciation of the opposite sex in everyday encounters is the first step on the road to being ready for another relationship, if that's what you want, but it's best enjoyed at that level for a little while before progressing to the next step, especially after such a long marriage that ended on such a sour note.

I'm glad it's made you smile though.

She text me back ths morning and we are going for a drink next week, didn't text her back straight away didn't want to look desperate. I will keep you updated.

Maybe she didn't text back straight away for the same reason? Best of luck and hope you have a lovely time.