Any internet experts to help me to find out what my husband has been up to?

[Catchhimatwhat]

I didn't try to find this out. I was not snooping, I was not suspicious.

I searched for my husband's pet name, the one I gave him, on google just for fun, which appears to be unique because the only thing that came up was a websit called getiton, with his pet name and our tiny village as the user's location. So it must be him, or someone we know who has heard my name fr him and set it up to get him into trouble. Is that ridiculous? I am clutching at straws.
I clicked into getiton and it seems to be a sex site, for people to meet up or for video sex. It had 450 views, it said "friend finder".

You had to register to see the profile, I did, then I searched for his pet name and there was nothing, then I searched for our location and nothing again.
So has he deleted his account? Can I see it any way? Will it be visible anywhere?

Video sex requests I could fogive but not the other.

I don/t want to ask because I have read so many times here cheaters only admit what they have to admit.

I thought I would look at other local profiles to see if I could find him but you have to pay £7 per month on an annual contract.

I might not be able to come back for a while but I will come back.

Tell him. Put him on the spot. So what if he lies to you, how long have you known this man? Don't you have a good idea by now when he's being evasive? 'Want to tell me why 'petname' from our town is registered on a sex site?'....

Yes you're right, it probably means that he deleted his profile but its still cached somewhere. The same thing has happend with an old OD account of mine.

Using the petname you gave him to trawl for sex (if that's what he's doing) is such a twist of the knife, sorry OP.

Why would he use your pet name for him to register for a shagging site?

I mean, maybe he did.

But is it really so inconceiveable that this is somebody else and that the name is has a local dimension that makes it more likely someone in your area would have picked it?

Can you follow the money? You know the monthly amount now so you can look for it on statements.

Okay, something very similar happened to me with my ex. He was a chartered surveyor and a friend wanted his number to do some work. I couldn't remember the address of the business, but said if the put in the mobile number it would come up, only for his number to be registered on a BDSM sex site - he had feedback of over 170.

Try searching using " " around words - that's how I ding things out. So put his name in using the "" around it. HTH

Have you tried logging in as him, so using the pet name as the user name and then a usual password that he uses...? Could u guess the password?

Or, if u have access to his emails, put in his user name or email address and use the forgotten password link.
Then go into his inbox and there will be a link to his profile.

If u do get in, you will be able to see when he joined and when last active etc.

Hope it's not what you think it is...

Is the pet name very distinctive then? Sorry you are going through this

Sorry I hadn't been back before.

I've been not thinking about it. I feel like if the account has been deleted, I won't be able to prove anything, so asking won't help. I'm trying to forget it. I do wonder if he has merely changed his name there though. :(

I know he does have another email account that I never see him looking at. I'm kind of scared to try to hack in in case I find out something awful. I might not be able to anyway. We have separate bank accounts and he must only get online statements because I never see any.
He does go away with work a lot. He would have plenty of opportunity to cheat. If had never entered my head before though.
There is no chance it could be anyone else. It has to be him. The pet name is very distinctive and has nothing to do with where we live. It can't be a coincidence. The only thing I don't know is what exactly he was doing.

It's scary definitely.

But what if he has been meeting up with these slag bags for sex?

He could have given you an STD.

I would do what distrusting said, get the lost password link, get into his email and then look at the account.

You need to know hun, maybe it was just for kicks/attention, crap either way I know.

Good Luck

xx

It's obviously him. He might not have been doing anything in RL but then he might.

Either way he's not fully on board is he.

Why settle for someone else's possible seconds?

Take your head out of the sand. Tell him you have found him online (no other info) and have an appointment with your local GUM clinic.

And go to your GUM clinic for a check up. Chlamydia can block your tubes.

Hope you don't have kids with this husband of yours.

You have to either ask him, look at his bank account or look at his emails. You can't just ignore it.