I've got a friend who is immensely popular and a people pleaser. She has battalions of friends she has on a revolving list, now it's this one's turn now that one's. I really like her and don't have many (any!) friends myself.
This friend and I used to get our hair done together (for her it was a two birds, one stone, can fit someone else in situation) and I'd go round once every couple of months and we'd share a bottle of wine. She would never come to mine despite invitations, she likes to be in the hostess role.
She has in the past year moved floors in the office and made two new good friends as she sits with them now. I've fallen down the list some way. No more hair, no more evenings.
So recently she's been saying, oh come round this week and we'll have a catch up. Once it actually got arranged but she blew me out.
Now she's emailed me saying come round next week and bring your tarot cards and is it ok if one of new friends comes too.
Now I know this is pathetic and I am a grown woman but I feel hurt and I need to get over it. I understand that I don't mean as much to her as she does to me, but I feel a bit like I've been demoted to the hired entertainment.
I really want to say fuck you and your new friend but I know that's just the hurt child inside me. She doesn't like 'jealously' and has spoken disparagingly of the other new friend who is a bit jealous too - the three of them have got a bit of an eternal triangle going on.
How can I resolve my hurt feelings and accept the friendship on the terms it's being offered? Or equally, should I recognise that this friendship doesn't offer me what I would like from a friendship, grow a pair and let the friendship go?