I heard the Dutch teach DC, in school, The Warning Signs of a potentially abusive relationship....

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Do they? If so, what are they?

I may have dreamed this ()- it's quite possible!- but I'm sure some 'liberal' western democracy has a programme in schools where teenage DC are taught what to see as Red Flags in any relationship so as to be wary.

Anyone any the wiser?

TIA

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What's DC?

A quick Google search brought up some teaching packs that deal with what to look out for when starting a relationship. I'm not getting the picture it's part of the standard curriculum though, although it wouldn't surprise me if many schools talk about it during sexual education.

DC- Dear children/Dear child.

It's MN shorthand.

reality- what you put is entirely true!

But I am wondering where I may have read the idea/s that you can pre-empt getting into 'bad' relationships.

I think some of the stuff went along the lines of:

Is s/he jealous of you having other friends?
Do they seek to stop you seeing such friends?
How do they react when things don't go their way?
Are they cruel to animals?

etc etc.

Or many schools? Maybe some. To me it sounds more like something I'd expect in a Scandinavian country, but then maybe that is inter-Northern European 'liberal' western democracy prejudice.

Hi I deliver PSHCE in secondary and we do cover warning signs for abusive relationships just as we cover the grooming line to make young people aware of exploitative relationships.

I live in Northern Ireland and Women's Aid go into schools, church youth groups etc and deliver this sort of teaching to children and teenagers.

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I live in The Netherlands and I am not aware of it. It is probably covered in citizenship type classes but I don't believe there is a national curriculum type requirement.

Excuse me while I roll my eyes and do a hollow laugh. My prick of an ex is Dutch. Maybe he used these classes to learn how to be a lying cheating scumbag

But, BOOP- in retrospect- do you think that there were what you now know to be 'red flags' in your ex's behaviour in the past?

Do you think some things he did or said were red flags which you either, back then, didn't know about or, sorry to ask, but chose to ignore?

It's an important distinction! And no, one wouldn't necessarily be able to guess what the signs are without being told, imho, to a certain extent. Though, of course, here on MN not so very long ago was a thread about 'Things you wish you'd known/acted on in the past that would have save you a lot of hassle now' (sort of!) where it was alarming the number of posters who put 'I wish I'd listened to my best friend, my mum, everyone, about the prick I was determined to marry. I thought they were just jealous...' I genuinely wonder about what Red Flags they identified which the poster didn't?

An example on a different topic area is what I understand is quite a strong indicator for future criminality: wanton cruelty to animals, as a child.