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Getting Divorced - School Fees / Spousal Maintenance / Child Maintenance

7 replies

BrownEyedGirl4 · 06/10/2013 22:21

Hi! We have agreed our consent order, however can anyone let me know if this has to go before a judge? AND the all important question, how long until we are divorced and free?
We have agreed FH will pay the school fees, spousal maintenance for 5 years, and child maintenance til the children are 21 (currently 14 and 11).
If anyone can help with timeframes please do. Please don't ask me to run it past my sol, the legal bills are huge as it is.

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AngryBirdUglyEx · 06/10/2013 22:40

Sorry to piss on your parade but has your ex run this past his sol yet? It will have to be signed off by a judge and in my experience once his solicitor lays eyes on it they will be jumping up and down telling him he can pay MUCH less.

I am 18 months down the line in a bitter divorce which started with STBXH agreeing to pay mortgage and school fees and is now forcing us out of our home and forcing my 8 year old son to be removed from his fee paying school. Heartbreaking, but fully supported by his 'family lawyer' .

Sleepyhoglet · 06/10/2013 22:48

Sounds a good settlement. Hope it works out.

VBisme · 06/10/2013 22:54

That is good, I'm sure the divorce is horrible, but I think you've come out of it relatively well.

skyeskyeskye · 06/10/2013 23:48

Yes it has to be stamped by a judge. My solicitor said that they can refuse to stamp them if they think they are unfair to one party. I would run it past your solicitor.

Mosman · 07/10/2013 09:06

If he agrees to it then its just between you two and nobody else's business no doubt he knows he can pay less.
The wheels will fall off if the agreement needs enforcing but once he's been paying it a while the president has been set

elastamum · 07/10/2013 09:11

Make sure that the school fees are clearly seprated from sposal maintainance and child support and that the court order is finalised. Dont whatever you do let it be lumped together as child support as this can be reviewed and changed via CSa 1 yr after the divorce.

Unless it goes before the judge and is stamped by the court it isnt legally binding. Make sure this happens as until it does, the agreement isnt worth anything.

meddie · 07/10/2013 16:01

Be careful regarding school fees. I had an order that he was responsible for school fees and token maintanance. He never paid the maintanance then one year just stopped paying fees.
He left the country and I was lumbered with 5k in owed fees plus interest and penalties while I disputed it as he was responsible as per court order

The judge ruled that as their parent, even though I Had never signed for the school or was on the contract that I was responsible. It financially crippled me for years.

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