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too soon to have sex?

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mumtobe88 · 06/10/2013 18:28

Hi
I gave birth to my daughter 3 weeks ago. She was delivered by ventouse, an extremely traumatic event for me, I lost a lot of blood, had an episiotomy, had to have surgery to remove my placenta as it didn't detach by itself and had a lot of stitches.
I am all healed up now 3 weeks later, my stitches have dissolved and I feel much better in myself.
My husband and I are considering having sex again for the first time since I gave birth but I don't know if its too soon or whether I should wait for my 6 week check up. Would it really be that bad not to wait that long? I feel fine physically, not in any pain at all. Have bought condoms and lube as that was all the advice I could find online.
Does anyone have any suggestions or advice?

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mammadiggingdeep · 07/10/2013 08:10

3 weeks....wowsers!!!! Think I would have run a mile at the thought of sex after 3 weeks. Would definitely wait 6 weeks.

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missbopeep · 07/10/2013 08:19

Surely at 3 weeks you are still bleeding?

Might not bother you but would me.

The other issue is that although you say your stitches have dissolved and you have healed, you may have had some internal stitching ( and areas that are not healed) which you can't see.

The 6-week rule applies not just to post-birth sex but any 'injury' down there! Hysterectomy, vaginal repairs (I had that after DC2) and so on.