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You all said LTB and now he's announced that we're finished

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4paws · 06/10/2013 08:18

The truth is always better than a lie apparently. He doesn't feel about me the way he should. He loves me but not in that way. Or not enough for me.

He's ok about me leaving the country with the kids. This will be hardest on him he says but he wants to be the bigger person here. He did say we could make the 'pragmatic' choice and stay together for the sake of the kids; so basically continuing life the same but with me accepting it. I said I couldn't live like that. I have spent 2 weeks now trying any way to get through to him but it seems his mind is made up. Tho now he's being nice to me and calling me 'baby'

Says there's no point in counselling. Even after everything I said before, I am absolutely gutted. Sorry. I have no idea how to link old thread. Help me. I'm trying to keep it together.

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Aroundtheworldandback · 06/10/2013 11:17

Donotrideonawhitehorse you are so correct. My exh de-humanised me and displayed such viscous contempt and hate to me to justify his affair and vile treatment of me and his dcs. Ten years on he still loathes me for 'having taken money' in maintainance for the dcs. So now he has a reason!

And the fact that I am now blissfully remarried to someone as good as he was bad, doesn't make it any better for him!

FarOverTheRainbow · 06/10/2013 11:18

So sorry your going through this. My OH has just ended our relationship and I'm devastated, I love him and can't understand how he can walk awayfrom his family. MN has been great and I hope you get some RL suppor too Thanks

Chubfuddler · 06/10/2013 11:22

Crack on with making arrangements that suit you while he's feeling guilty and amenable. His attitude towards you could indeed easily turn later when he starts to feel angry about the guilt he's feeling, and decides to blame svst he sees as the source of the guilt - you

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