XH and drugs

[lemonstartree]

DS1 15 has just come back from his father. He found a big bag of skunk in his fathers room. And lots of little money bags.

XH has form. I divorced him for drug and alcohol addicton

what would you do?

Be pleased he's your ex.

would you contact the police?

I wouldn't, no.

What does ds want to do?

It'd would need to be your ds who reported it to the police if anyone was going to btw.

Do you have younger children who visit him?

I would try to go for a supervised contact arrangement after something like this tbh.

DS wants to report him. Apparently XH had big wad of cash. DS thinks he is dealing.

yes i have younger children - the youngest is 8

I wouldn't report him but I'd let him know I knew. How often does he see the kids ? Does he see them over night ?

I would stop unsupervised contact. I would also call the police for 'advice' and ask that the concern is at the very least noted. x

If ds wants to report him I think after establishing that he has thought that through fully you should go with him to report it. It would help support you pushing for supervised contact.

There is no way I'd want my 8 year old going round to a dealer's house father or not.

mr plod are coming to see us tomorrow afternoon... DS decision, He suffered physical verbal and emotional abuse from XH related to drug abuse and he is very angry that his dad has picked it up again....

I would say he's dealing yes. Big bag gets broken down into little bags and ends up as cash - it's all there.