Still going through the divorce but you know what, it's all starting to look ok.

[Lucca22]

Never thought I'd turn the corner, highs and lows in the last three months since my pin-up of a husband (funny) left me and our son for a coworker young enough to be his daughter. She's still feeding him large amounts of Turkish Delight and his fat gut seems to be taking it, I wouldn't want to be around when it's mucking out day. I believe things happen for a reason and didn't sit around for too long, after the initial shock of it all I decided something good needed to come from it all, helped with volunteering, looked into a course which I've always wanted to do, caught up with old friends (the ones he managed not to scare away completely) and made new ones along the way. So if anyone out there is going through the same thing, don't give up, life is too short to be worrying about time wasters.

Hurrah for you - well done. I hope your post acts as a huge encouragement for other cheated-on MN ladies feeling devastated by cheating bastard partners.

Glad you''re feeling more positive. However, don't be surprised if you have a low day occasionally in the months or even years to come. Good luck

I still do have them but it's like kicking a bad drug, in the long term I'm sure I'll be a better person for it. Thanks.

Hi lucca, good for you it sounds as though you are a very strong person and doing well. I am 18 months down the line from when my pin up ex (lol) left my son and I for the new 'graduate' girl in his office. I can only guess that people must think he's out with his daughter as well.

It's a rocky road, a very rocky one. My divorce is still not finalised as he needs all his pennies for impressing the little lady and so I still feel in a horrible limbo of not being able to move on but the pain and shock has most certainly subsided with time. I hope that you continue to go from strength to strength. Best if luck.

Well done OP you sound strong! I'm 12'months down the line- loving being alone and recently ( to my surprise) met someone who thinks I am quite wonderful!! You have been given your wings back - use them to fly.

After 29 years of thinking you know someone good and BAD it still feels strange. I look at it as the final betrayal, he can't do anything else to me really. The man has no shame and he will go to his grave not knowing good from bad, which is what it is and meant to be I reckon. I did everything I possibly could to try and get him to stay and he brushed me aside, thought this woman was the answer to all his so called prayers. I'm hoping the divorce will favour my son and myself and the judge will see him for what he really his, he's already upset my lawyer which wasn't a good move. Be strong and know in your hearts you are not to blame.