Relationship & romance strain

[littleraysofsunshine]

Since expecting dc3, my hormones, do working lots. No time for each other, no time just us, only to go to sleep at night. Seems like the romance is fizzing. Two small children, I just get tired & snap all the time. Feel like shit.

I end up saying horrible things like asking him to leave if we've had a disagreement, he says my emotions are up & down. He annoys me where he gets to have his own time as an induvudyal yet I don't, or we don't have couple time.

Being a mum is the best job in. The wrkd. But I feel unimportant as my own person & as a girlfriend.

Sorry for my poor typing, I'm typing through tears

I've heard hugs aren't very MNy but I'm new here so have some anyway ((()))

You sound so fed up and understandably so! If DP is getting time to himself, you need time to yourself too. I'm also a firm believer in having couple time especially when you have small children.

Do you have family/friends that can help you have couple time? I think I have often had to resort to booking time in our diaries - so saying "Friday is our night" and nothing else gets in the way. Even just a takeaway, a film and a cuddle when the DC are in bed.

As for him having time to himself and you not - put your foot down with that. Can you take a couple of hours one weekend morning? Or take yourself out one evening while he stays in with the children?

Any spare time we get we try to do stuff as a family. Never just us

You have to prioritise 'us' occasionally. It's more difficult when you have children but it's not impossible provided you actually want it to happen.