Internet dating advice.

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Ok so finally found the guts to try internet dating after many years of being alone. Really surprised to have some interest. But what now??? Meeting someone seems so daunting, but that seems to be what's meant to happen instead of chatting for a while. Is this normal or am I just being a wuss?

Thanks for reading.

Thanks Bitout.

I agree with the babe and hun ones. Also the profiles with the men with their tops off, look nice but do put me off slightly, just showing off. A few people have asked if I skype and not spoken to me again once I say no, I'm sure they want to show me rude pics.

Ha ha step away, I am also being quite fussy so good to hear that it works aswell!

Another one here who met their partner on PoF - we've been together four years and have just moved in together.

I agree with the 'babe' and 'hun' message avoidance. Also photos obviously taken on a webcam of men with no tops on, probably just wearing their pants. Also anyone photographed next to a motorbike/sports car/motor boat.

As everyone else says, take it at your own pace. Don't be hurried, but equally don't keep persevering with people who keep fobbing you off or are unreliable.

I also used to meet up within a week or two of messaging - you know very quickly whether you're interested in someone in real life. And be brave enough to tell them straight away if you're not interested.

So, good luck and enjoy yourself. I still dine out on a couple of my ID stories.

Ha ha the motorbike/sports car/ motor boat ones really make me laugh, such show offs.

Thanks for the advice.

My Dp had a photo of him next to his old classic motorbike ...my opening comment was 'nice bike' .

He is the least showoffy (is that even a word?) person I know ...so don't write them all off

Met DP on Match.com 7 years ago...he first messaged me on Sun night, spoke for first time Tues and met the Fri...was due to visit for weekend (I'm Scotland, he was NI) 2 weeks later he was still here lol travelled to each other every weekend til he moved over 3 months after meeting. DS came along 4 years ago

I also avoided anybody holding a large carp

I'm surprised by how many men catch such large fish and want to show the pics off.

Hi

Personally, i was of the 'meet up quickly' school of thought. Having done it for around two years on and off, I quickly found the email stage a bit repetitive and boring, and was always a little wary of sharing all my small talk before the date!

I found that it can work both ways in that people who you think you will really click with turn out to be really disappointing, and people who I was a little more indifferent to over email were much more engaging in real life. So It did reinforce my feeling that the email stage was (for me) a bit pointless.

My tactic was to email for no more than a week to see if they seemed interesting and then suggest a drink or a coffee.

This also means that you don't have time to get too anxious about the date, and you haven't invested too much time and energy in a person who you will never see again!

My last tuppence worth is simply: have faith!! I went on loads of dates, some successful, most not(!) but actually always had at least a nice conversation and beverage! There were times i was disillusioned but...

After all that I met my lovely current partner, and we are very happy!

PS abitout is exactly right! Always have more than one on the go to avoid getting too attached and

PPS Good luck and have fun!

If you get on well, have a second date if he's up for it - even if you don't have an instant spark. I was getting a bit jaded and nearly declined a second date with the man who is now my DFiance - spark followed on date 2.

I disagree with Jessica - in my reasonably small circle of acquaintances I know two other couples who have got married or engaged after meeting online, and at least three long-term relationships.