Actually, that's not strictly true - he's not been interested for a couple of years now! Brief history - I asked him to leave 3 years ago when I found he'd been cheating with someone, lying about it etc - he wanted to stay - living in our house. Having all the benefits but able to do what he wanted! Needless to say - I didn't want that!
Anyway, he met his new DP, now wife, 5 months later, had a baby in the September (which he says was his, but the maths just doesn't add up!), and moved 2 hours away. For a year or so, I encouraged our DC to go, but always had a major argument to get them to go, tears the lot. After a year, my younger DC refused to visit any more - said he'd hated it there, and told me some real horror stories. My older DC, who has behavioural issues continued to go - as he "didn't want to make dad angry", but after a horrible time this Easter, has also refused to go any more.
Fast forward to now, Ex DP and new wife have had baby number two - didn't tell the DC till 8 days later, and then to top it off came up to where we live to introduce baby to his family, but not his own DC!
He's not supported them financially for 12 months now, despite me chasing CSA, although there may be some light on the horizon! I think this together with the total lack of interest I the DC has meant that the DC don't want any more to do with him, but won't tell him. I just wonder what anyone would do? I've had it now with trying to be nice and pleasant, and actually just feel like giving him an earful that I've been dying to do for a long time now!!
Any advice would be great - thanks!