What is the age gap between yourself and your partner?

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and what would you consider to be too old or too young?

dp is 18 years older than me. Its never been as issue for me, we're very similar in our outlooks so I guess that helps

I find other people have more of an issue with it and have heard over and over again 'she's only with him for the money' And I've yet to find 'the money' 4 years later!

Do what feels right for you

DH is 6 months older than me. I once (briefly) dated a guy at uni who I think was about 12 years older than me - when he told me about something he did when he was 20 I realised I would have been only 8 at that time, and that really freaked me out for some reason!!

Personally I'd probably draw the line at 5 years older or 2 years younger (if more they'd be younger than my little brother which again I'd find weird).

13 months.

I'm not personally given to relationships with men who aren't more or less the same age as me, but I have friends with seemingly happy marriages and 12-15 year age gaps. They don't spend as much time together as we do, though.

The problem I would see with a large age gap is when the older one gets to retirement. I work full time so for me it would probably feel like I'm paying for him to do nothing a home. If I were a stay at home mum, I would worry where money is going to come from for the next 20 years before I get to retirement age, and then what my pension provision would be. Obviously doesn't apply to the vey rich.

3 months. Childhood sweethearts :)

Day is 13 years older than me, it works great for us and we've been together nearly 10 years.

A few months. I am older. He is a young 30-something in many ways but I think he'll be a big kid at 50 to be honest.

My only slight worry early doors was that he might suddenly decide he wants kids at 40 (we aren't planning to have children) because I do think some men are 'ready for a family' later but he is fully aware of the limitations of my biology in that respect (not saying I would change my mind, but at 40-something I may not have the option).

One you really feel you would be paying him to do nothing? Regardless of age gaps I hope by the time I retire people don't look at me as if I done nothing after working 60 plus years of my life

My DH is 12 years younger . I am 47. We have now been together 8 years , married for 5

It bothered me a lot at first but that was my issue not his. I suppose it helps that he and all his family/friends thought we were the same age

My husband is 8 years younger than me. We've been married 17 years in a few weeks. The biggest gap was with an older man who was 23 years older but I adored him.

My husband is almost 17 years older than me.
It doesnt really matter because we were both quite old when we married.
I dont think the age diference matters so much after a certain age.
I love him

DP is 10 years older - met 11 years ago, been together 5.

19 years between us. Have been together just over 6 years and have 2 DC, married for almost 5 years.There is a noticeable age gap when it comes to life in general as he's very calm and likes a quiet easy life and happy to be at home all time when he's not working etc, where I am different.

Never been with anyone my own age, always been 5 + years older when I was younger but now I wouldn't go under 15 years or over 25 (depending on the persons general health and fitness of course)

5 years between myself and dp, I presumed he was older as his friend who set us up knew I liked older men, a month doen the line I found out he was only 5 years older and I admit if I found. Out on first date it wouldn't have gone any further!
My biggest age gap was 21 year gap for a relationship in the past.

over yes in the sense that I am not ready for a pensioners lifestyle at 40. But if I am with someone who is say 30 years older than me and in retirement, the chance of him being able to afford overseas holidays are lower. And let's not talk about saving up for a university education for the children. I'm only putting the very rational hat on.

Not everyone retired can't afford done luxury in life ofc. My aunt's husband is retired and goes to plenty of expensive foreign holidays and stay in hotel suites. But with two incomes, we still have to save for our holidays, so I'm just talking at a more normal income level.

And I expect my retirement will be poor obviously. I have peanuts in my pension provisions.

My uncle has just had a new baby a couple of years ago at 58. The wife is 30. So I have plenty of family example to imagine what it could be like.

DH is 12 years older than me. I'm an old head on younger shoulders and he's like a big kid sometimes, so it works and isn't really noticeable. Most people think we are both around the same age until we tell them otherwise.

I never thought I'd want someone older, but it's just the way it turned out. We haven't got DC together (he has 2, I have none) but it doesn't concern either of us that he will be older as he's so young behaviour wise, fit and healthy. We are just waiting for the right time impatiently.

My husband is almost eleven years younger than me. It works for us.

My ex is fourteen years older than me. That worked too. It wasn't the age gap that split us up, we were together for eighteen years.

DH is two weeks older than I am.

He is 8 months older than me.

No more than 10 years older for me I think, and 5 years younger (currently. Might change as I get older!)

DH was 10 years older. Age was partly to blame for our split as he had very dated expectations of a woman's role and he was a dickhead

Last two long term relationships have been 6 and 7 years younger and age wasn't an issue.

But now I'm 50ish I'm wondering how feasible it is to attract a younger partner........but I'm trying. Definitely don't want someone older, except for wining and dining purposes

It's nice to hear of all the you her men older women combos in this thread.
It works well here too and I even managed a baby at 43 buy I often wonder if we are in a very tiny minority.

DH is 14 days older than me.

I've stuck within a few years either way.

I have had a major, major work crush on a man 15 years older than me and wouldn't think twice if I was single. But he is very mature, caring, thoughtful fit as a fit fittie & handsome. He also has youngish tastes. Our other desk buddy was 2 years younger than him, but always seemed like an old man.