Friendships just never seem to work out for me. Everyone else just seems to glide through life getting on with people. I end up all the time with people wanting to fall out with me or to just be spiteful. I don't know if this is because I attract the wrong kind of friend or because I'm awful. Said person will then fall out with me, all mutuals will side with them, and they get to carry on as normal with their merry life and I'm left alone.
I was friends with a mum at the school, she is also my neighbour. We were, I thought, good friends. I introduced her to another friend, who also had a child at the school and for a while all 3 of us went on nights out and met up regularly. Suddenly they both were going on nights out and excluding me, and inviting other mums from school along to join their little group but not me, and they were both hot and cold with me whenever I saw them at school. They still are really. Sometimes they'll be all chatty and at other times they'll act like they don't know me and will walk past me. What's upsetting is that they both have loads of other friends and a hectic social life, yet they have taken away the small social life that I had.
Also years ago when my eldest was little I ended up taking DH's friend's child to school each day as his wife worked. The wife was awful to me and treated me like a hired help, and again at the school wormed her way in with everyone I spoke to. One day her child said some things to me that her mum had said about DH and I, such as our house was a dump and we were common, and I spoke to the mum and said that I was upset about it. She then went totally off on one, and fell out with me, turning half the mums at school against me in the process. After a couple of years, they emigrated. They are now back for a few weeks and there is a big meet up with the couple, and loads of DH's friends and their wives. DH has been invited but I'm not invited as the husband has said that 'I don't get on with the wife'. So I've ended up taking the flack for something that wasn't my fault and I was only speaking my mind (nicely), and now it looks as though over the years DH's group of friend label me as difficult and hard to get on with.
And now it's happening again at school; my youngest has just started school, and I became friendly with his best friend's mum. After a few meet ups it became clear she was the type of person I'd vowed to avoid; slagging people off, nasty digs, very two faced, and I started to keep a bit of a distance. She seems to have cottoned onto the fact that I'm keeping a distance and now keeps being horrible on the school run, walzing up to whoever I'm talking to at pick up and making them talk to her, giving me dirty looks, and pointing at me.
I'm totally fed up :(