DPI just doesn't care...time to go?

[KissMyStardust]

I've posted before about DP texting dirty messages and kissing another woman. I asked him to leave and he did for a week but then we agreed to try and work on things, he was going to make an effort more This effort lasted 2 weeks and has now reverted back to no affection, effort at conversation...just not bothering about me really.

Tonight i told him I can't continue to be in a relationship where i feel unmoved and unattractive, he says he wants us to be together but just doesn't seem that bothered by the prospect of me leaving. I have to leave as 'this is his flat' - the fact he would let me and our daughter struggle to find somewhere to live just compounds my wish to not be together...

I just wished he cared but instead of talking things through he'd rather watch tv.

im only in my 20s, i don't want to waste my life with someone that is indifferent about our relationship but im so scared. i have nowhere to go, no job.

i don't know what to do...i don't know what im looking for by posting...some support mostly i think.

I think you need to read your OP. It's pretty blindingly obvious:

• he has been texting and kissing another woman
• he isn't bothered about what happens to you

What part of that makes you think he is worth your time and effort?

He must pay to support your daughter. How old is she? Are you working at the moment?

Yes it seems bloody scary and hard, but trust me, staying with this man is absolutely NOT a recipe for a happy life.

There will not be a better time to go.... while you and your C are young you both can adapt. Little ones don't even know or care if you're short on money!! You both deserve better, and you can do it. Please look ahead at how his attitude will sap the energy out of you, energy you need for your little one. And the example this would set for her....

Sounds to me like you know what you need to do its just what first steps to take to start the process of leaving him.

First thing to do would be to get some legal advice either from CAB or see a solicitor specialising in family law, often you can get a free first visit and you may be entitled to legal aid. He has to provide for your DC and as other posters on here have found, myself included, you will probably be surprised what you are entitled to.

Write yourself a list and focus on making those first steps, as others have said you are young and should not be wasting those years in such a destructive relationship.

Good luck.