My DH has spoiled the weekend. He usually just spoils Sundays. I dont know why, maybe its the thought of going back to work on Monday or maybe its too much time together? We argued Saturday, I was tired after work and he was tired becuase he had been up quite early (for no reason in particular) He lost his temper and threw a couple of things. Not at me, just in temper.
Things culminated yesterday when he told me that our son ( who was staying at a friends) had phoned to say he was going to London with friend and parents. He said as he knew this he didn't see why he had to tell me. I was furious, of course i want to know where my children are, imagine my shock should there have been an accident.
We ended not speaking for the rest of the weekend. until last night he apologised for his actions regarding throwing things ( not regarding argument itself) He apologised for not telling me about son then added "next time i will know you want to know his every move" I just tutted at the adolescence of the comment as couldn't be bothered.
The argument centred around family time and activities at weekend. We never do anything except shopping in the nearest town. Then he is a baby if he doesn't actually buy anything. He tuts and eye rolls if i ask " can you mow the lawn?" " can you help with this or that" If Cups or Plates need washing or tidying up needs doing. everyone waits for me to say "please can you..."
Whilst at work Saturday i asked if he could put away clean clothes. He made the piles gave the children their pile each, threw his pile at the top of his cupboard and left my pile on the floor in the bedroom and said " i ran out of things to hang them on" which is rubbish there are lots of free hangers in my closet. Its not just the lazyness of this action and it being indicative of his whole tone, but the thoughlessness as he and the children wear a uniform all week. i do not, hence having things hung helps in the morning.
I needed to go to a bank in person ( in the nearest city over 20 miles away) to withdraw some money today. i couldnt put the money into another account as he has my card. i rang to tell him this and he turned off his phone. I have in the past told him that if he is with a client that it is only good manners to say "excuse me" and then ask " can i ring you back" or turn the phone off. But i think that seeing my name and dismissing me is upsetting.
i feel like i am an apendage, a weight, a drag. If i ask him to interact for more than 15 minutes either with the family or contribute to the running of the household then i get the deep sigh and the eye roll. This makes me feel unwanted and i think i am going to spend a week of being my DH. I am not coming home from work early to make the evening meal. I am not instructing on making things presentable. I am going to leave things.I would really appreciate it if you didn't give me meaningful advice! We are big talkers, but i am all talked out. I despise sulking. i prefer honest and open communication. but i am fed up. and i want to sulk. I am turning into dh for a week. at this moment in time, there is 2 cups, 2 coke cans, one side plate and various rubbish in front of computer at home. There are glasses on all side talbes in the living room along with plates. There is even a plate on the sofa that one of the children used. i am not asking them to move it. There is half a carton of milk left to go sour. The bin smells.
He will expect me to forget things and to carry on and make the most of the week. however i am afraid i would like to make his week bloody awful. There must be some mumsnetters who dont sit round a table and talk things through all the time.
If no responses, it has been good to talk!