Sorry for the rant but I'd appreciate some advice-I'm beginning to get close to the end of the line with dh.
I know that my dh is a good man and would do anything for ds and me but...he is so f**king lazy it's unbelieveable.
I am a SAHM and ever since I've stayed at home there's been a shift in how he relates to me.
When we first got together I was a manager running a dept, had my own flat, looked after myself and had a great social life etc. He was 27 and still living at home and never had any money. He has told me that he didn't think I would ever be interested in him.
He tells me "you're getting on a bit now love, you're not as young as you used to be" so don't expect to be able to go out and socialise.
He cannot ever ever be wrong. He puts me down in front of other people-if I voice an opinion he'll laugh at it.
He seems to think that going out to work absolves him from ever having to do anything else.
He has never been any good with money. He has a phobia-am totally serious-about checking the account balance at the cashpoint. He will come up with any amount of excuses not to check our account balance if I ask him too (I know, bizarre). So, I deal with everything financial.
He takes £150-£200 per week and that is for travel to work and lunch for 5 days.
We had an argument this mornign because I've asked him not to spend his "weekly" money over the weekend and then expect me to reimburse him on monday morning when he's decided that he's spent too much.
What's really really f**ked me off today is that he's swanned off with £80 in his pocket (for 3 days!!) and left me and DS with £2.
The argument was over the fact that he "jokingly" (so NOT a joke) asked where the £15 was that he'd spent over the weekend and when I was going to give it back to him!!!!
I'm sorry that this all probably seems to petty. I'm fed up being with a man who has never changed his attitude to money even though we have a child.
I've explained that, since we moved a few months ago, we would be tight for a fewmonths and then, after we had the opportunity to build upi a safety net, we would then be ok.
He told me recently "why can't I earn some money so that we can be frivolous again".
Then when I tell him that I can't reimburse him because the money we have is spoken for (don't get me wrong we're very far from the bread line but for the time being we have to budget-which he doesn't like) then he starts getting superior and telling me that he doesn't like the fact that we're being forced to budget, "why are we short again". We're not f**king short-we're on a budget for the moment!!
So so sorry for the long boring rant. If I don't get it our of my system then I will explode and go mad.
What would you do? How would you approach this?
Be so grateful for any replies.