My dd 15 recently went to her father's wedding. He had been divorced from me for 6 months, and made the split quite nasty and played a few mind games with her in the process. Some of you may remember the 'man' who apparently signed up for OD because I wouldn't go owl-watching with him one night. He has regular contact, but seems to be increasing favoring the current and recent wife's children, even when they are in the 'wrong'. If dd is in the wrong, I expect her to be told IUSWIM. At the wedding, I am told, but have no reason to disbelieve, that she was not allowed to travel in the car with the rest of the family, although there was room, and had to go with another more distant family member. This seems to be another example of him siding with the person who will bring him most immediate benefit, ie keeping new wife sweet. She was upset after the wedding, and I am hurt on her behalf. I know I can't get him to have a personality transplant, but he is having another wedding party in a couple of weeks. She is attending, and I can see the same thing/similar thing happening again. Any thoughts please? Logically i know that he took not a blind bit of notice of what I said for 20 years, so in unlikely to now. Just hurts to see her hurt. I married the knob, she didn't IUSWIM. I have posted this already in LP but not much traffic. I don't know how we move on from this. Maybe I need counselling..