Advice please oh wise and wonderous ones

[feelinlucky]

I've been out of the dating game for some time. Been on a 'meet' with what seems a very sincere and nice guy. We went out Thursday, was a pleasant time, he departed saying he would text me, if that's ok, I text him later a generic nice to meet you. I didn't hear from him until Sunday which surprised me because I thought he just didn't like me, now it's Tuesday and I've still not heard from him yet. He's away with his friend on a walking holiday until the weekend so I'm kind of ok with that but my friend thinks he's rude! What say you? :) I'm keen to just go with the flow if that helps.

Read 'He's just not that into you'. If he was interested then you wouldn't be left wondering. Don't waste your energy thinking about this guy, just get back out there and you will find someone who leaves you in no doubt that they want to see you again.

Goodness, really ! Ok. So I should expect daily contact even though he's on holiday? That seems a bit much. Maybe he isn't bothered. I didn't think that but maybe im kidding myself. There was me thinking my friend was being really cynical!

Hmmm...I think I would have expected a bit more contacttbh but he may not have signal / bettery / both is he's away.

I'd hold fre and wait and see what he does when he's home tbh

God this dating malarky is a head fuck isn't it?

Please excuse the shit typing. I'm supposed to be working but trying to multi task

Have I got this right? You went out thurs, when he left he said he would text you. You text him thurs night but he didn't reply until sunday and nothing since then?

Haha, ok, I ll take that on board. I think you're probably right . I'm just trying to be positive but I guess I know that if he liked me he would be texting away. Ffs why fucking bother then !!!! I get more cynical by the day. I don't want to be but honestly I don't understand why anyone would bother with a text if they weren't interested. If I'm not interested, I say so and that's it. I move on. Why bother saying hi and letting me know how his trip was going. I'm giving up! I will never understand men. If you're not fucking interested then fuck off :) goodness, I'm not normally so sweary :) bastards!!!!

Pop, we had a brief drink Thursday. I said nice to meet you by text. He text me Sunday with an update of his holiday and asking if I'm ok and not heard from him since but he's on a walking holiday, so I'm not expecting much but my friend thinks he's rude.

Hey! Wait till he gets back before you judge!

Don't let the dating scene make you too jaded. Have a little patience!

I speak as an ex online dating expert so take note!!

It could, yes just a first date. I think it's ok but I'm confused now because some think it's not good enough. My wee head is all of a kaffuffle :)

Bitout, that's my philosophy but honestly I'm confused. Some say he should be more interested, I think it's ok to wait until he's back from his annual walking holiday with his friend.

Disenkerfuffle yourself!

Just wait. Observe. And have another couple warming up in the wings just in case!

Although he did leave it three days to say hi following our initial meet. That bit has thrown me. I think he should have at least text to say nice to meet . He's been single for nearly 8 years though do I'm taking in board that he may be cautious and that's ok with me .

:) I have a young friend sitting by and still on it :)

I'm loving disenkerfuffle :)

Why not trust your own judgement- you were there!
If you are interested then give him the benefit of the doubt- don't text him first and see how things are when he gets back. If you aren't really interested then forget it.

No need to be positive about whether he likes you or not, cos it doesn't actually matter- you know that you are great and deserve a great relationship with a man who makes you feel fantastic. He might be away, he might not have a signal but if that's the only reason why he hasn't text yet he will be in touch as soon as he gets back to make another date. In the meantime, don't wait, just find someone else interesting to go out with. Either way you'll be fine.

So? Have you Dekerfufflyfied yourself?

Thanks pop. Wise words indeed. I'm hoping he will say hello when he gets back but for whatever reason he may not. It won't be the end of my world. Onwards and upwards!

Should I google dekerfufflified? Wtaf !!! I'm googling.

Well that's thirty seconds I won't get back!

I have no idea. I just made it up!

Haha, I love it, it cheered me up :)

Good! Now, what are you thinking now?

I'm too busy browsing other threads to think about the man. I'm not too bothered. I will just move on as I always do. Someone will turn up and while I'm waiting I ll spend time with my cute, significantly younger, buff fwb. It's all good :)