I never posted in Relationships because I felt my situation was far too complicated, and it was, really. I knew what I had to do and it took me years to find the courage. Actually it was fear that made me act. Fear of spending the rest of my life in the same circumstances, rather than fear of my then 'D'H.
But I took on board all the brilliant advice that was given to others.
Tonight, I am on my own. I have the house to myself. I got my own place some months ago :) I used to feel so lonely, and so scared but as time passed I have felt more comfortable and honestly, I was much more lonely in marriage than I am here, with my pc, a glass of wine and my two kittens :) I never thought I would make it this far!
I just want to thank all the lovely MNetters who take time to offer support. I know you all know that it is far reaching! You helped me though you never knew :)
To anyone who is worried about coping... honestly, life is so much easier without grief and anxiety. My Ex caused me to have panic attacks..... I have no idea why I never saw that and why I put up with it... God so many wasted years. Please dont make the same mistakes I did!