Would you be annoyed?

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I have a goup of friends, one was recently 40. I suggested a 'surprise' girls night and everyone seemed to thing it was a good idea. Went on holiday to Malta for fortnight. Came back to a message on answering machine saying they'd all chipped in and bought her a gift. Could I give them £25. I felt angry and I'm still annoyed. I thought I was fairly eas going and don't want to cause fuss over something trivial. Should i mention how I feel or just keep quiet?

I would, if it is really bothering you!

What I mean is, would it bother anyone else or am I just being oversensitive. I would have liked to have been consulted on my ideas for a gift instead of just buying it while I was away then asking for the money.

why not say - but i have already bought her something?

challenges their assumption that you would just willingly hand some money over

The issue with me is that I came up with the idea in the first place of the night and there are only 6 of us so I didnt think it would have been that difficult to rganize

You would have been hard to get hold of in Malta though! I dunno really, bit of both.

Good idea Custardo- I think it was their assuming that bugged me most. It just something that bothered me. Felt a bit left out i suppose.

hmmm i'd be a bit annoyed too, because of the assumption. when was her birthday in relation to your holiday? was it while you were away? in which case they might have wanted to give her a present on her birthday and since you were away had to go ahead without you.

But how can they consult you in Malta? I wouldn't be that peeved tbh. It's her 40th and you don't have to do any organising, just fork out 25 quid for a gift! It's not that bad!

sounds like a very expensive gift if your share is £25 .

I would definitely say something to someone.

what happened to the girls night out ?

Wow they got her a present for £150 ! Think I would be a bit embarrassed if my mates spent that much on me.

Although to be honest I would be happy to chip in £25 for a 40th pressie for a good friend because thats what I might spend anyway. I would probably want some sort of imput into what the gift was though.

I think I'd be annoyed at the assumption I want to contribute £25 towards something I had no choice over. How do they know that you haven't already bought her a present?

They could have consulted you if you had your mobile with you. My mum sends texts to me and my sisters on a daily basis when she's away and we send back, so it's not an impossible task.

What pressie was it that cost that much?
When I read your posting, my initial reaction was that you were angry about the cost, not that you hadn't been consulted per se.I'd have a fit if someone assumed I could afford to give £25!