He wants to be single

[CharlieB30]

I'm devastated.

I posted a thread a few days ago about our lack of sex and Dp not wanting to put it on me. After a row and a talk he has admitted he wants to be single and has wondered what it would be like with someone else.

We've been together 4yrs and our DS is 4 months. We've had our problems and he's no where near the perfect man but I thought we could get thru them and I never wanted to break up. I'm really hurt. The fact that he wants to be single has put as end to the relationship, even if he decides to try and make it work he'll surely cheat on me if he had the opportunity?

I'm heartbroken.

One has to wonder when he will be ready. It certainly sounds very ominous

Sadly Vivacia and AF are absolutely right.

And he regretted the words as soon as they came out of his mouth?
Really?
Why didn't he apologise immediately, then?

Maybe you should be wondering what it would be like to be without a twat in your life.

This send my alarm bells ringing! I have to say I agree with many of the other posters OP. I had an ex that used to say similar things every now and again through our 12 year relationship. At the time; I was not ready to give up on the relationship and there was a ds involved. Looking back now - I can see that these were all part of a larger emotionally abusive picture. I wish I had the foresight to leave him earlier.

When someone says something as final as 'I want to be single' it leaves a lasting stain on the relationship. Its like there is a constant silent threat in the background. I am firm believer that every person thinks before they open their mouth - this could mean that what he said was either the most offensive thing he could pick or inversely the kindest. Either way its a lose lose situation!

You deserve not to have such lukewarm behaviour in your life right now. It's wrong for him to say such hurtful things to try to 'improve' the relationship.

It could be that he wants out, but doesn't know how to say it and stick by it. I hadn't thought about what others are suggesting, that it's a threat to get you in line. Makes you think.

What are you thinking about it OP?