And some pretty horrible things were said. it all came to a head last night. our sex life isn't great and never has been. (DH suffers from ED) i blew my top after another failed attempt. so humiliating for both of us. i told him i didn't like having sex with him. i just came out with it. i slept in the spare bedroom to avoid the row. he's devastated but went on the verbal attack today and has told me some truths about my character. i am selfish and self-absorbed. he does everything he can for me, and i am a twat for wanting a good sex life. can i not be happy with what we've got. (2 grown-up DC's, good holidays and are about to move to a lovely new house). Apparently my dad warned him about this when we were getting married 19 years ago. I am a horrible, greedy woman. i think we're done. We can't buy a new house with everything that entails (bigger morgtgage, bills, financial pressures) if he has so little respect for me. how can we have a relationship and commit to the next step if when we row all this comes out. i resent him massively for our crap sex life. he won't take Viagra. i don't know why and i don't know what to do. i am completely floored. it's me right? i need to look in the mirror and take stock. i told him yesterday (when we were friendly) that a 'friend' has said she would find it funny if our house purchase went wrong and we had to be rrepossessed. DH said, there's a reason for that. You're not a nice person. So. there it is. Any thoughts anyone? WWUD?