NC with parents, hoping TTC in. 2014

[thundernlightning]

DH and I have decided to start TTC next year. I'm delighted but my parents are alcoholic and I'm NC with them. This is... Awkward. Other people must have gone through this but I'm at loose ends. Can anyone help with:
Do you tell them when the baby's born?
What can I do to replace the support of a functioning family during the pregnancy?
If they send baby a gift do we accept it?
Why isnt there an Emily Post ettiquite guide for this?! (And if there is where can I get it?)

That's lovely thunder. I am thinking TTC in the new year too. I also have a difficult relationship with my mum and dad and some siblings.

Do you see them at all?

Not for two years now. But if feels weird to not tell them there's a grandbaby (whenever that happens). I'm sorry you're in a similar situation! (But secretly glad I'm not the only one!)

I think 'NC' means 'NC'. They have to cease existing to all intents and purposes. Social media and mass communication being what it is, few things remain secret for long. If they send a gift, accept it but don't communicate. 'NC' means 'NC'.

I am lucky to have a fully functioning family but, as they are all about 200 miles away and I am a lone parent with no ILs or father in the picture, I have managed with a combination of friends and a lot of paid help. You at least have a DH and presumably he has some kind of family. So I think you're better off than you imagine

Thanks, Cogito. I think you're right. I have a good network of friends too, which makes everything feel a little less scary.